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it is likely to be only a matter of time
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Some women like the stretching effect of
two or more fingers, so long as they

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are well lubricated.

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And some have a G -spot on the front
inside wall of the vagina, which can be

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stroked with the pad of a finger.

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It's possible for some women to reach
orgasm in this way.

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Often people say that watching their
partner stimulate themselves is

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sexy.

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This can both be very arousing and give
you an opportunity to see how your

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partner masturbates themselves.

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There is no better way of learning than
by actually seeing for yourself.

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This will help you become an expert on
your lover's arousal and teach you how

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masturbate them as well, or perhaps even
better than they do it themselves.

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We like to watch each other masturbate,
and it's fun.

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Um, yeah, I enjoy watching him
masturbate very much.

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It just seems so rude, you know, in a
really nice way. It's just so rude.

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Some people find it hard to stimulate
themselves in front of their partner.

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However, if it's done during the course
of other foreplay, then it can be much

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easier.

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Women are frequently amazed at how
vigorously men masturbate and how

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they grasp their penis.

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Likewise, men remark on how gentle women
tend to be with themselves and how they

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centre most of their attention on the
clitoris, unlike male masturbation,

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tends to recreate the movements of
intercourse.

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She gets really turned on when I stroke
myself in front of her.

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It's nice that you can do that, be
really open and just masturbate without

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worrying what to think.

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Masturbation can be a whole sex session
by itself or part of other sexual

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activities.

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As with everything, work out what's best
for you both and what you both really

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enjoy.

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Perhaps even more intimate and enjoyable
is oral sex.

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Both men and women find this uniquely
sensual, and for some, it may often be

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culmination of sexual activity.

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It can certainly be amongst the most
erotic.

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There are many ways of stimulating a man
with the mouth and tongue.

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Try drawing the penis in and out of your
mouth with your lips covering your

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teeth to avoid inadvertent bites.

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Roll your tongue around the shaft and
head, using it to explore the opening,

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mostly concentrate on the frenum.

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That, to him, is like your clitoris.

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His sensations will be vastly increased
if you flick the frenum rapidly with

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your tongue.

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Kissing and licking his balls.

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and even taking them in your mouth is
also very pleasurable for him.

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When it comes to orgasm, you could
either keep his penis in your mouth or

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depending on how you feel.

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Oral sex with a woman is something to be
taken slowly.

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Try making it the end point of a carpet
of kisses.

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Some women are a little embarrassed at
the thought of being kissed there, and a

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man should do everything he can to make
his partner feel relaxed before he

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starts.

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Kiss the insides of her thighs, around
her pubis and then the outer lips of her

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vulva.

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Stimulate her clitoris with the very tip
of your tongue.

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All the time stroke and caress her body
with your hands.

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Move your tongue down to her vagina.

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Lick around the lip, then probe inside,
beginning an in -and -out movement.

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Why not try any number of variations?

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You can use a firm lower lip to rub the
pubis, tugging at her vaginal lips with

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your mouth and gently sucking the
clitoris itself.

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It's important to remember that the
clitoris is usually the most sensitive

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stimulating the clitoris with your
tongue keeping the rhythm steady but

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is what most women say works best

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one

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thing to avoid is blowing into the
vagina or down the penis for that matter

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can be dangerous

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Again with oral sex, remember everyone
is different and enjoys different

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Be guided by what you both want.

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Many people believe that the ultimate in
oral sex is the celebrated 69 position.

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Getting into it as part of romping
around the bed can be fun and arousing

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both of you.

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The intense togetherness it allows,
where both partners give and receive

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simultaneously, makes its fame well
deserved as one of the most erotic

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activities there is.

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As you can see, sex is definitely not
just about penetration and orgasms.

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There's a huge array of sensual and
erotic activities to be favoured and

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enjoyed.

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The key to a great sex life is to keep
ringing the changes.

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It's easy to become complacent about
foreplay as the relationship develops,

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just a little extra time and imagination
devoted to foreplay can reap huge

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rewards.

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For most people, actual intercourse is
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As we have seen, this needn't
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But there are many forms of penetrative
sex which have the potential to deepen

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the emotional feelings between two
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In a lot of relationships, couples tend
to settle on two or three lovemaking

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positions.

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This is fine, but it can be good fun and
highly sensual to explore other

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variations.

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I guess we do tend to stick to the same
position, but every now and again we try

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something different and it's great.

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Best known of all is the so -called
missionary position.

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It's justifiably popular and makes for
close and sensual lovemaking.

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However, subtle variations such as the
man placing his legs outside his

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partner's and using his thighs to
squeeze her legs together can add to the

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sensations for both.

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And putting a pillow under the woman's
bottom can increase the depth of

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penetration.

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The basic woman on top position is a
good position for the woman to increase

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stimulation to her clitoris.

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There's something really exciting about
being able to look down on him. I can

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watch his face and his excitement.

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For me to be in control and see the
pleasure I'm giving is a special turn

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She can also try sitting facing away
from the man.

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This is a good position for her to
stimulate herself easily, and for him if

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likes to watch her bottom as she rises
and falls on his penis.

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while keeping the penis inside the
vagina can produce wonderful sensations

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are difficult to attain in any other
way.

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In this position, penetration can be
very deep.

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A woman can also slightly vary her
movements so that his penis comes into

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contact with anywhere she likes within
her pelvis.

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Positions in which the woman is on all
fours. allow the penis to penetrate

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deeply and also to stimulate the front
wall of the vagina around the g -spot

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either can reach the woman's clitoris
and this in itself can make for high

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levels of arousal this can be exquisite
for some women and a few say that they

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can only ever climax during intercourse
when using this position

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To stimulate the woman fully in a
variation of the missionary position,

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the so -called clitoral alignment
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The man slides forward until his pubic
bone compressed directly onto the

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clitoral area.

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For maximum enjoyment, the woman needs
to be highly aroused first.

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Whatever position you're in, it can be
more arousing for both if the woman

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contracts her pelvic muscles on the
man's penis to the same rhythm as his

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thrusts. And the man can twitch his
penis inside the vagina.

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A chair provides many enjoyable
possibilities for the creative couple.

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In a position such as this, the woman
controls things by her movements with or

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without his help.

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Facing away from him allows either to
caress her clitoris.

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This one allows the woman to caress her
partner's bottom or even to stimulate

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his anal area.

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He can move well and his penis pushes
deeply into the back of the vagina in an

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almost unique way.

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This position is actually much more
comfortable than it looks.

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Because movement is very limited, it's a
good position for the man who tends to

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come too quickly.

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It's easy for the woman to slip forwards
onto his penis so that she ends up

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squatting over him.

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More adventurous is this one, which
brings the penis into contact with the

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wall of the vagina.

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The man cannot move too much.

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but an agile woman can make the most of
it.

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She can easily reach between her own
legs and bring herself to orgasm.

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However, it's not recommended for a man
with a bad back.

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This is a very restful position for
both.

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Either can reach her clitoris, either
can caress her breasts, and she can

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him.

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Finally, this position allows
exceptionally deep penetration the man

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massage her feet which many women say
they love talk about which positions

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produce the best sensations for either
or both of you as with so many areas of

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our sexual and romantic lives it all
comes down to a willingness to

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and to share what you enjoy best as you
become more experienced with one another

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you'll be able to build up a collection
of lovemaking positions that suit every

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occasion and every mood.

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And remember, don't just restrict your
lovemaking to set times, set places and

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set routines.

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Variety is the spice of life and sex
with your partner is no exception.

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If the mood takes you, then go with it.

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I enjoy a lot of different positions,
whatever feels good at the time.

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Particularly erotic is when a couple get
together for passionate and spontaneous

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quickies.

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It's one of those lightning activities
where you both just know you want it,

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can't wait, and can't resist giving in
to the overwhelming instant desire for

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one another.

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Short, sharp, and shattering.

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Quickie sex can be amongst the greatest
moments of lovemaking.

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We all find a mass of wonderful
sensations in foreplay, lovemaking and

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contact of all kinds.

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However, an orgasm is, for most of us,
the ultimate response to intense sexual

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excitement.

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It happens when our body goes into spasm
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Waves of contractions flood through the
body and a tremendous release is felt.

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It's the uniquely personal blend of
emotional and bodily responses.

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It's a big build -up and then it's like
a kind of release. You feel really

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relaxed and absolutely like no strength
left.

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The physical characteristics of men's
and women's orgasms are essentially the

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same.

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But the length of time to achieve
orgasm, as well as the ability to have

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orgasms in one session, varies greatly
between men and women.

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If a man is to help bring his partner to
orgasm during lovemaking, he should

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pace himself.

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This will solve the problem that during
intercourse alone, it takes a man four

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minutes on average to reach ejaculation,
whilst it takes a woman 18 minutes to

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arrive at her orgasm.

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So what are the characteristics of the
male orgasm?

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As arousal increases, the heart rate
rises to up to double its usual rate.

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A few men have a sex flush and
experience a considerable increase in

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sensitivity.

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The scrotum thickens and the testes are
drawn more closely into the body.

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Sweating, disproportionate to the
physical exertion involved, may also

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the muscles tense.

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If the tension goes on mounting, he
reaches a point of no return in the

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of arousal when reflex mechanisms take
over.

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From then on, for three or four seconds
before and then during the climax

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itself, a man can do nothing but go with
it.

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With poor control or a high level of
arousal, ejaculation can occur within 30

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seconds of erection, though most men
take an average two to four minutes.

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With good control, a man can delay his
orgasm through a very long time.

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At orgasm, there are three or four major
contractions of the penis, about 0 .8

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of a second apart, which then rapidly
reduce in frequency and power.

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The total amount of semen ejaculated is
usually just less than a teaspoonful.

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Once the man has ejaculated, he may find
his penis becomes very sensitive,

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preventing further stimulation.

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When this happens, it returns fairly
quickly to its flaccid state.

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There are ways to learn even more
control.

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For instance, as you become aware that
you are about to ejaculate Either you or

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your partner can take the head of the
penis between thumb and forefinger.

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Squeeze hard and the erection will
subside in a few seconds.

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Once the man is soft, he can create an
erection again and continue.

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You can repeat this as often as you
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Eventually you'll gain better control
and be able to ejaculate whenever you or

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your partner want.

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You can also learn control by making
your penis very wet when you masturbate

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Again delay coming as long as possible

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Once able to control when you

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ejaculate not only will you have better
orgasms yourself You'll also give much

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greater pleasure to your lover For the
man for whom premature ejaculation is a

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problem A condom can also be a help.

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It simply makes the penis less sensitive
and allows more stimulation before

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ejaculation.

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Whereas almost all men feel a need to
ejaculate to relieve sexual tension,

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women say that their need for an orgasm
is not so compelling.

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There are, of course, enormous
variations, but the more women express

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honest views about their sexuality, the
more it seems they have a similar desire

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for orgasm to bring full sexual relief.

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Surveys show that roughly two -thirds of
all women don't reach orgasm through

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penetrative sex alone.

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Some women resort to faking.

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Often, though, it is because of a
selfish partner who hasn't helped enough

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her arousal during foreplay.

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Some say that they can greatly enjoy sex
even though they can only have orgasms

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from time to time.

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But it's clearly important that a climax
for her should be an option.

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Every woman can discover what arouses
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She can either do this with the help of
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I said to one of my friends that I'm not
sure if I've had an orgasm or not. And

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she said, well, you must know.

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And believe me, if you've had an orgasm,
you would know.

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Once the woman becomes aroused, she
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If stimulation were to stop at this
stage, she could quickly return to the

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resting state.

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However, if the stimulation continues,
there's no reason why she shouldn't have

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a climax.

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The bodily signs of arousal include fine
sweating, deeper breathing and

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increased heart rate, swollen breasts
with hardened nipples, increased

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tension,

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and sometimes a red rash over the top of
the chest and throat.

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During actual orgasm, the whole body can
be seen to contract.

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Lots of women cry out as breath is
forced from the chest.

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The back may arch, feet and toes curl,
and around the genitals and anal area,

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contraction of the pelvic muscles can be
obvious.

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The emotional and psychological aspects
of orgasm can be as significant as the

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physical ones.

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Some women experience difficulty letting
go sufficiently to reach their climax,

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and if so, can choose various means of
self -help to overcome this.

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The main difference between a woman's
climax and a man's is that she may take

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much longer time to get to this peak.

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Also, Once at the plateau phase of her
arousal, she can remain excited for

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considerably longer.

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And during this heightened phase, a
woman can be re -stimulated to come

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and again, something most men can't do.

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Once her orgasms are over, it takes a
long time for a woman's arousal level to

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return to the resting state.

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When women stimulate themselves, they
tend not, like men, to recreate the

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thrusting motion of intercourse.

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Instead, stimulation is usually focused
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The clitoris is by far the main sexual
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Make sure the area is well lubricated,
then try all kinds of motions and

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around your clitoris.

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Work out what feels nicest and stick
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If you do have difficulty reaching a
climax, you could also try a vibrator.

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Many women find them arousing.

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Anyway, take pleasure from the learning
process.

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This will all add to developing your
sexual responsiveness.

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Whilst orgasms are important for both
emotional and physical reasons, It can

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make sense not to make lovemaking too
orgasm -centered.

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Problems can arise if either partner
expects the other to have an orgasm, or

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they demand it for themselves.

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Either situation can lead to feelings of
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Be sure to talk about your experiences,
and you'll soon come to realize how

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similar they are in many ways, and how
you can benefit from any differences.

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I'm gonna take my time.

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Making time.

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You know I'm going to take my time.

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Take it easy. I'm going to take my time.
Taking love with

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you.

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I'm going to take.

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The one sexual secret above all others
is being confident in yourself and your

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sexual ability.

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If by the end of this program you are
happily aware of all the things in it

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have tried all the things you wish, then
you can be fairly sure that you are

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pretty good in bed.

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If the skin is the largest sex organ,
the brain is the most powerful.

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How good your sex life is has an awful
lot to do with your head.

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The first thing is to be totally
comfortable about yourself.

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This means, first of all, accepting that
nobody is perfect, but that everyone,

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of whatever shape, size or age, is
capable of being a thoroughly sexy

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Learn how to have vocal sex.

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Open up your heart and talk sexily to
one another to help remove inhibitions.

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Although you may feel silly or
embarrassed, try saying what you would

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like. You will soon find talking sexily
comes naturally and is intensely

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arousing. Open up. Try saying what you'd
really like.

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Ring each other during the day or send
emails and describe what you want to do

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to your lover that night. Write each
other love notes.

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Experiment with fantasy and masturbation
to discover your own on -button and

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encourage your partner to do the same.

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Nothing ensures a great night as much as
building expectations during the day.

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It can be great fun to learn how to talk
sexily.

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Although you may feel you don't know
what to say, all you need to do is

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what you're going to do to your lover or
what you want them to do to you.

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Talking this way will really help in
opening up to one another and prove an

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instant turn -on for both of you.

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Be honest. Try saying what you really
like.

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Find out what your boundaries are and
those of your partner.

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Discuss them with your lover.

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Always respect each other's limits, but
don't be too rigid and always try to

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expand your horizons.

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Talk about sexy things you have seen or
read and make a point of reading sexy

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literature and watching sexy programs or
videos.

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And you don't have to go to the top
shelf.

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Many magazines have a device on sex.

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Discuss what they say and how much you
would like to try them out.

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It will all help to sort out your own
thoughts and attitudes.

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That way, you will be happy with
yourself in your head.

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Real sexual intimacy is about opening
your heart to a partner as candidly as

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reveal your body.

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The depth and richness of lovemaking is
built on foundations of knowledge, trust

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and deep, deep understanding.

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Sharing your wants and needs improves
communication between you and deepens

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sexual involvement.

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At times, though, the two people
involved may want different things from

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relationship. Some may be looking for
long -term commitment, while others are

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only seeking short -term pleasure.

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As long as you are in tune together,
that's fine, whichever option you

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But if you want more than your partner
is able to give, you may find it

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difficult to have fulfilling sex
together.

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Opening your heart means showing your
feelings and letting your partner know

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much you care.

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Give love tokens such as chocolates,
perfume, flowers or sexy underwear to

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your partner you've been thinking of
them, just because you love them, not

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because there is an anniversary or
birthday to celebrate.

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Planning a sexy night in together can
help build the anticipation and heighten

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your enjoyment.

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Allowing your emotions free reign
before, during and after sex can enhance

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lovemaking and bring you closer
together.

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Feel good about yourself and your body.
No one pleases all the people all of the

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time, so make sure you feel good about
yourself and that your partner does too.

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Doubts about yourself can be self
-fulfilling and lead to poor sexual

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performance.

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problems with orgasms in women and
erectile difficulties in men.

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Whatever has happened in the past needs
to be left there.

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Previous embarrassments and upsets are
part of your personal learning curve.

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Like learning to ride a bike, you may
have the odd tumble before you can fully

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enjoy the fun, adventure and freedom
that comes from being able to do it

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properly.

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So leave bad experiences in the past and
work on shedding any inhibitions you

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have. Leave old baggage behind and look
to present and future joys. If you want

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to develop the relationship with your
partner, then you can build deeper love,

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understanding and friendship by spending
quality time together.

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And if kids come along, don't forget to
keep your love life alive and to

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continue having a long and passionate
affair as the years go by.

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Discovering what your emotional needs
are and keeping properly in touch with

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your feelings and those of your partner
will all help get your heart right.

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It is being good both to yourself and
your partner to be as fit and toned as

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can be.

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The erogenous zones are sensitive areas
of skin packed with extra nerve endings.

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When these are stimulated in the right
way, they trigger sensual feelings and

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act as shortcuts to full -blown arousal.

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The major erogenous zones include all
the obvious sites.

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In men, the major zones are the lips,
penis, and scrotum. In females, these

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the lips, buttocks, breasts, and
external genitals, including the

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vaginal entrance.

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Erogenous zones can be stimulated in
numerous ways.

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The nipples are primary erogenous zones
that become erect in both men and women

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during sexual excitement.

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Some like gentle, sensitive handling of
these delicate structures, while others

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prefer slightly rougher fondling,
squeezing and sucking.

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The pigmented area surrounding the
nipples, the areolae, may swell so much

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look bruised.

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One can even be more sensitive than the
other.

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Experiment to see which sensations your
partner prefers.

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Everyone also has secondary erogenous
zones.

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These include the eyelids, ears and
earlobes, nape of the neck, soft skin at

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top of the inner thighs, the backs of
the knees, plus the extra sensitive

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As the secondary erogenous zones vary
from person to person, working out where

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your own erogenous zones are, and those
of your partner, can be one of the fun

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pursuits of good lovemaking.

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Some people might be shocked, but the
anus is another exquisitely sensitive

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area. especially around the part of the
rim nearest the vagina or testicles.

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Try stimulating these areas with a well
-lubricated finger.

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Some people enjoy having the tip of a
finger slipped inside, but others don't.

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The real secret here is to relax and
realise that it may take time for you

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to enjoy it.

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Experiment to find out what you both
feel comfortable doing.

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Either wash your hands afterwards, or in
the height of passion, keep one hand

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for anal stimulation and one for
vaginal. This is because they both have

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different bacteria that shouldn't be
mixed.

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Learn the art, skills and techniques of
giving a sensuous massage.

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Use aromatherapy oils, some of which act
like pheromones to produce an

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aphrodisiac effect.

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Try using ambrette, patchouli, vetiver,
jasmine or rose to increase your

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partner's desire.

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Mix a few drops of your chosen essential
oils to the massage oil or lotion.

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Warm some of the oil in your hands
before using it to lubricate the skin as

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explore and massage your partner's body.

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Indeed, one of the nicest ways of
finishing a sensual massage is to lie

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partner on their front, raise their hips
on a pillow and teasingly massage their

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most sensitive parts from behind.

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Use plain oil alone, though, on the
genitals themselves.

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Massage allows you both to fantasize
while you luxuriate in your partner's

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caresses.

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Take turns to explore, stimulate and
arouse each other. As well as fondling,

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squeezing, sucking, nibbling and even
biting these sensitive areas, try also

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wetting them and blowing them dry.

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Try a range of different textures,
velvet, fake fur, silk.

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Try eating food of one another.

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Much better than having a big meal
before sex.

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So

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enjoy

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your own body and each other's.

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Accept the way you look and enjoy all
the wonderful feelings our bodies can

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give.

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The real secret of masturbation is that
it's a pleasure in its own right.

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It is now acknowledged not only to be
something almost everyone does, but also

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something that everyone should do.

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It provides sexual relief, increases
libido, and develops suppleness in both

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and women.

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It should not be viewed as a substitute
for sex, but as a useful way of

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expanding your sexual repertoire, your
fantasy life and training yourself for

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intercourse.

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For women, masturbation is also useful
in developing full orgasmic capability.

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And men can use it to train themselves
to last as long as they want in

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penetrative sex.

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Men and women can use stop -start
techniques, both to give themselves

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orgasms and to develop the kind of
control that allows them to come when

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want to.

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Bring yourself to the brink of orgasm,
then stop while your arousal level drops

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back and take yourself back to the brink
again.

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Repeat this several times before
allowing the waves of what by now should

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sensational orgasm to flood over you.

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Once a man can last, say, half an hour
whilst masturbating, he will be able to

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keep intercourse going as long as any
lover would want.

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As with intercourse, variety can be the
spice of life.

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Try different positions.

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Some men say it can be difficult for
them to cum during sex when they're

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on their back with their partner on top.

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By practicing masturbation in this
position, you should be able to overcome

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problems with this.

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Try masturbating with lubricants. They
prevent soreness, and practicing with

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them can help gain more control over
ejaculation, as the sensation is similar

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that of penetration.

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If you always masturbate the same way,
try different techniques.

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Try using a vibrator.

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And if you are both feeling adventurous,
insert a dildo or even a chilled

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cucumber into her vagina while
masturbating.

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The secret is to go with the flow and
let all the sensations wash over you and

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take you to even higher pinnacles of
passion.

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Women could try thigh power as a novel
way to reach orgasm. Building to the

459
00:41:27,290 --> 00:41:31,090
brink manually, then adding in the
squeezing of the thighs to bring you to

460
00:41:31,090 --> 00:41:32,090
orgasm.

461
00:41:35,050 --> 00:41:39,630
You could also try deeper and shallower
penetration with one or more fingers.

462
00:41:45,110 --> 00:41:46,790
Try tugging on the labia.

463
00:41:52,270 --> 00:41:54,990
or using circular motions while
stimulating yourself.

464
00:42:00,810 --> 00:42:05,190
Men can try varying the grip and speed
of how they stimulate themselves.

465
00:42:05,750 --> 00:42:10,330
See if rubbing the ligaments in the
abdomen just above the penile root does

466
00:42:10,330 --> 00:42:11,330
anything for you.

467
00:42:11,370 --> 00:42:15,410
Try stimulating your perineum and
fondling your balls.

468
00:42:17,110 --> 00:42:20,390
Stimulate other erogenous zones, such as
tweaking your nipples.

469
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:23,920
as arousal builds, and particularly at
the point of orgasm.

470
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:30,920
It's also a time to practice flipping a
well -lubricated finger into your anus

471
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:35,220
and perhaps starting to develop this as
another pleasure area before you let

472
00:42:35,220 --> 00:42:36,220
anyone else try.

473
00:42:45,580 --> 00:42:50,040
Explore different feelings to give
yourself a more sensational orgasm. For

474
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:55,800
example, try tensing your muscles,
particularly pelvic floor, and relaxing

475
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:56,980
near the point of climax.

476
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:01,600
Take ten deep breaths near the point of
orgasm.

477
00:43:06,540 --> 00:43:08,620
Try masturbating in different places.

478
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:13,500
It adds a free song to be playing with
yourself in places you normally wouldn't

479
00:43:13,500 --> 00:43:14,740
or don't feel you should.

480
00:43:19,210 --> 00:43:23,190
To add an extra dimension of fantasy
while you masturbate, try getting your

481
00:43:23,190 --> 00:43:24,510
partner to spy on you.

482
00:43:24,810 --> 00:43:29,230
It may help you feel less inhibited in
what you do and is bound to be a huge

483
00:43:29,230 --> 00:43:30,910
turn -on for your partner too.

484
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:47,240
Masturbation in front of one another not
only shows that you feel very

485
00:43:47,240 --> 00:43:51,700
comfortable and uninhibited together,
but also allows your partner to discover

486
00:43:51,700 --> 00:43:53,660
what you like and how you do it.

487
00:43:58,740 --> 00:44:03,320
While sex should not be goal orientated,
one thing you could aim to do is to

488
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:05,920
masturbate your partner better than they
can do it for themselves.

489
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:25,680
men need to learn all about how the
woman likes her clitoris stimulated is

490
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:30,940
too sensitive for a direct approach if
so rub at the side and the ridge above

491
00:44:30,940 --> 00:44:37,940
does she like a lighter or stronger
stroke how fast does she like

492
00:44:37,940 --> 00:44:40,260
the pressure pace and rhythm to be
varied

493
00:44:43,310 --> 00:44:47,570
Only she can truly guide you, as another
secret you need to know is that the

494
00:44:47,570 --> 00:44:50,390
clitoris changes in sensitivity at
arousal peaks.

495
00:44:53,470 --> 00:44:58,310
Some women may want firmer, faster
stimulation, while others prefer a

496
00:44:58,330 --> 00:44:59,330
more gentle touch.

497
00:45:03,510 --> 00:45:08,050
Sensitivity can also change from day to
day, and from orgasm to orgasm.

498
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:16,220
You can also explore whether she likes
to be penetrated with your fingers, and

499
00:45:16,220 --> 00:45:17,360
if so, how many?

500
00:45:20,540 --> 00:45:25,500
Some women like the sense of the lips of
the vagina to be stressed, to feel more

501
00:45:25,500 --> 00:45:26,500
filled up.

502
00:45:39,580 --> 00:45:41,220
Try the thumb secret.

503
00:45:41,720 --> 00:45:44,020
What it lacks in length, it gains in
width.

504
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:48,780
Circular motions allow the thick base of
the thumb to stimulate her clitoris,

505
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:51,280
the vaginal opening, and its inner lip.

506
00:45:56,320 --> 00:46:00,660
When masturbating him, explore how firm
a grip he likes you to use,

507
00:46:00,860 --> 00:46:07,620
and how you can best stimulate the head
of his

508
00:46:07,620 --> 00:46:12,910
penis. For example, by running a
lubricated finger around the rim, and

509
00:46:12,910 --> 00:46:17,730
stimulate the ridge of the skin
underneath, the frenulum, where all his

510
00:46:17,730 --> 00:46:18,750
endings are focused.

511
00:46:21,490 --> 00:46:24,410
There are several ways you can massage
his penis.

512
00:46:24,670 --> 00:46:28,790
The simplest is to make a tight ring
with a finger and thumb and to massage

513
00:46:28,790 --> 00:46:29,790
up and down with this.

514
00:46:31,430 --> 00:46:35,970
Try ringing the changes by going fast
then slow, firm then gentle.

515
00:46:36,330 --> 00:46:39,410
and be guided by how he responds and
what he thinks alike.

516
00:46:42,930 --> 00:46:48,010
Another technique is to palm the tip of
his penis by literally rubbing your palm

517
00:46:48,010 --> 00:46:52,330
all over the tip while perhaps stroking
his balls at the same time.

518
00:46:55,090 --> 00:46:59,790
Perhaps the most delicious sensation of
all for most men is to use a continuous

519
00:46:59,790 --> 00:47:01,430
hand -over -hand technique.

520
00:47:01,870 --> 00:47:06,410
in which you make a finger -thumb ring
with both hands and run these one after

521
00:47:06,410 --> 00:47:09,150
the other down the shaft using plenty of
lubrication.

522
00:47:09,450 --> 00:47:13,490
This tight continuous downwards movement
feels like deeper and deeper

523
00:47:13,490 --> 00:47:17,110
penetration to him and will soon have
him writhing in ecstasy.

524
00:47:24,370 --> 00:47:28,810
For more advanced masturbation you can
even use the end of his penis to

525
00:47:28,810 --> 00:47:30,190
stimulate your clitoris.

526
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:36,700
You'll usually find it brings him off as
well.

527
00:47:45,020 --> 00:47:49,820
You can also try getting him to lie on
his back with you on top, then rub your

528
00:47:49,820 --> 00:47:54,400
clitoris and labia backwards and
forwards over his penis, though you'll

529
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:56,260
need lots of lubricant for this.

530
00:47:58,410 --> 00:48:02,610
One of the sensational secrets of mutual
masturbation is the three -finger

531
00:48:02,610 --> 00:48:06,730
technique in which you gently stimulate
her clitoris, vagina and anus together.

532
00:48:09,710 --> 00:48:11,790
This drives many women wild.

533
00:48:12,050 --> 00:48:16,730
Not every woman likes having her anus
stimulated, however, so experiment to

534
00:48:16,730 --> 00:48:17,770
what goes down well.

535
00:48:22,390 --> 00:48:26,110
One secret known to advanced lovers is
the G -spot.

536
00:48:26,410 --> 00:48:32,250
A controversial, erogenous bone named
after its discoverer, Ernst Rastenberg.

537
00:48:32,690 --> 00:48:37,390
It is a button -like area of tissue on
the front wall of the vagina that swells

538
00:48:37,390 --> 00:48:43,190
during sexual arousal. When the G -spot
is stimulated and gently pressed, it can

539
00:48:43,190 --> 00:48:45,910
trigger a rapid and intense orgasm.

540
00:48:46,230 --> 00:48:49,910
Hunting the G -spot is an erotic game
you can both play.

541
00:48:51,240 --> 00:48:55,280
To look for the female G -spot, your
partner should lie on her back with her

542
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:58,460
knee bent and apart while you kneel
between her legs.

543
00:48:58,720 --> 00:49:04,020
Using lubrication, insert your index
finger two to three inches into her

544
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:10,560
Make a beckoning gesture with your
finger to bring the fingertip up against

545
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:15,080
front vaginal wall until you can feel
the underlying hardness of her pubic

546
00:49:15,900 --> 00:49:20,680
Press your fingertip firmly but gently
up against this bone and move round and

547
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:24,120
round in a small circle, slowly working
upwards or downwards.

548
00:49:24,700 --> 00:49:29,520
If she suddenly feels a strange,
pleasant and intense sensation, you've

549
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:30,520
it.

550
00:49:31,240 --> 00:49:35,980
It only appears when she is fully
aroused and you may find it feels like a

551
00:49:35,980 --> 00:49:37,220
coin under a blanket.

552
00:49:37,500 --> 00:49:41,960
Don't be too disappointed if it remains
elusive, as not every woman seems to

553
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:42,888
have one.

554
00:49:42,890 --> 00:49:45,790
And don't worry either if it makes you
feel like you want to pee.

555
00:49:46,090 --> 00:49:48,170
The G -spot is close to the bladder.

556
00:49:50,770 --> 00:49:55,570
Some women also ejaculate a small amount
of fluid when they orgasm, especially

557
00:49:55,570 --> 00:49:57,030
through G -spot stimulation.

558
00:49:57,970 --> 00:50:02,310
This is thought to come from glands in
the vaginal wall that become engorged

559
00:50:02,310 --> 00:50:06,290
during intense arousal, then squeeze
during climax.

560
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:12,560
You will also note it while hunting for
a G -spot that the upper vagina actually

561
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:17,740
expands or balloons during arousal. It's
not as tight as you might imagine. It

562
00:50:17,740 --> 00:50:20,720
is only the vaginal entrance that
tightens as arousal increases.

563
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,580
The male G -spot lies in his prostate
gland.

564
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:37,280
Some men love having this stimulated
while others find it strange at first.

565
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:39,480
and may take time to enjoy it.

566
00:50:39,780 --> 00:50:44,320
The only way to find out if he likes it
or not is to gently try and see how you

567
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:49,620
go. But do make sure your fingernail is
short and use plenty of lubrication.

568
00:50:56,400 --> 00:50:59,580
For masturbation is an activity everyone
should practice.

569
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:07,040
It has all sorts of benefits when you do
it.

570
00:51:11,470 --> 00:51:15,050
and is an important part of your sexual
repertoire with your partner.

571
00:51:26,030 --> 00:51:31,150
Oral sex is a huge compliment to one
another, the ultimate acceptance of our

572
00:51:31,150 --> 00:51:35,550
most intimate parts and a powerful
involvement with our most personal

573
00:51:36,370 --> 00:51:41,590
Nature has designed your body shape hair
and odours as a turn -on for your

574
00:51:41,590 --> 00:51:42,590
partner.

575
00:51:44,790 --> 00:51:47,590
Don't be embarrassed about the way you
look or smell.

576
00:51:48,050 --> 00:51:52,890
Get to know your partner's unique body
smells which contain pheromones,

577
00:51:52,890 --> 00:51:56,970
sexual attractions that activate your
heart and instincts to help bring you

578
00:51:56,970 --> 00:51:57,970
closer together.

579
00:52:03,790 --> 00:52:08,190
Oral sex should be seen as one of the
most pleasuring things one can do for

580
00:52:08,190 --> 00:52:09,129
another.

581
00:52:09,130 --> 00:52:14,090
and empowering to you in giving you
control over their sensations and

582
00:52:14,850 --> 00:52:18,270
Let it be as big a turn -on for the
giver as the receiver.

583
00:52:19,270 --> 00:52:23,130
Realize that far from being demeaning,
it gives you the power to control the

584
00:52:23,130 --> 00:52:25,770
sensations and pleasures felt by your
partner.

585
00:52:29,130 --> 00:52:30,970
Don't worry too much about hygiene.

586
00:52:31,190 --> 00:52:35,490
As long as people bathe regularly and
have no infections, it is relatively

587
00:52:35,880 --> 00:52:39,980
If you prefer, you can include washing
your partner as part of your pre -oral

588
00:52:39,980 --> 00:52:40,980
sexual technique.

589
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:49,380
As for semen, it is mostly a slightly
salty tasting mixture of simple proteins

590
00:52:49,380 --> 00:52:52,100
and sugars, which will do no harm when
swallowed.

591
00:52:52,640 --> 00:52:56,960
It is up to you whether you want him to
come in your mouth, however, and if he

592
00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:58,600
does, whether you want to swallow.

593
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:00,920
You could wipe it away with a tissue.

594
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:08,680
When it splashes on the back of your
throat, it will trigger a natural

595
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:11,920
swallowing reflex, which you need to
know about.

596
00:53:13,300 --> 00:53:17,540
Don't be surprised by its warmth and how
small an amount it is. Only around half

597
00:53:17,540 --> 00:53:20,680
a teaspoon, not the gallons you might
expect from porn flick.

598
00:53:23,220 --> 00:53:27,880
If you are fine with oral sex, but don't
want him to come in your mouth, bring

599
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:30,620
him to the brink, then finish him off
with your hand.

600
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:35,940
Do try though by tasting a little bit to
overcome any revulsion you might feel.

601
00:53:37,020 --> 00:53:39,900
All sorts of techniques can be used in
oral sex.

602
00:53:42,660 --> 00:53:46,200
Lick all over the whole area to give
your partner an intimate tongue bath.

603
00:53:47,700 --> 00:53:51,040
The rim of the helmet or glands and the
ridge or frenulum.

604
00:53:51,600 --> 00:53:54,640
Underneath at the back are the most
sensitive parts of the penis.

605
00:53:55,980 --> 00:54:00,180
While the clitoris and surrounding areas
are usually the most sensitive parts of

606
00:54:00,180 --> 00:54:01,158
a woman.

607
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:06,400
Try fast flicking the tip of the tongue
on the clitoris or women to men on the

608
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:07,400
frenulum.

609
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:21,600
Another secret here is for the man to
keep his tongue still and let the woman

610
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:25,500
rub against it at her own pace and
pressure to give herself maximum

611
00:54:27,580 --> 00:54:30,740
You can also try getting him to hum on
your clitoris.

612
00:54:30,970 --> 00:54:32,370
like a human vibrator.

613
00:54:33,950 --> 00:54:39,150
One well -kept secret of oral sex is
just how fantastic sucking can be for

614
00:54:39,150 --> 00:54:40,710
partner instead of simply licking.

615
00:54:41,190 --> 00:54:45,190
Do cover your teeth with your lips so
you don't accidentally bite these

616
00:54:45,190 --> 00:54:46,190
sensitive areas.

617
00:54:47,270 --> 00:54:51,750
You can take the entire clitoris and
inner labia into your mouth and gently

618
00:54:51,750 --> 00:54:55,790
on these and even rub the end of your
nose on the pubic mound at the same time

619
00:54:55,790 --> 00:54:56,790
for extra stimulation.

620
00:54:57,770 --> 00:55:01,610
Women can draw more blood into his
penis, giving him literally explosive

621
00:55:01,610 --> 00:55:05,070
feelings as they do plenty of luscious
tongue work.

622
00:55:08,610 --> 00:55:13,450
Try inserting the tip of your tongue
into the sensitive hole or urethral

623
00:55:13,450 --> 00:55:14,830
at the end of his penis.

624
00:55:15,810 --> 00:55:20,590
Use your fingers as well as your mouth.
Add in all the manual techniques you've

625
00:55:20,590 --> 00:55:22,170
learned from masturbating your partner.

626
00:55:24,430 --> 00:55:28,510
Men love the sensation of their
partner's tongue interacting with her

627
00:55:28,510 --> 00:55:33,290
fingers, especially a firm grip on the
base of their penis while her tongue

628
00:55:33,290 --> 00:55:35,730
swirls around the head and ridge at the
back.

629
00:55:36,630 --> 00:55:40,890
To stimulate the penis, lick him while
using a tight finger thumb ring to

630
00:55:40,890 --> 00:55:42,790
massage him up and down with your hand.

631
00:55:49,830 --> 00:55:52,330
Stimulating the clitoris with your
tongue is an art.

632
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:54,660
as it can be so delicate and sensitive.

633
00:55:55,020 --> 00:55:59,960
Most women, for example, prefer
downwards rather than upwards movements,

634
00:55:59,960 --> 00:56:01,720
experiment to see what she likes best.

635
00:56:02,380 --> 00:56:05,820
Try circular movements of the tongue all
around the clitoris.

636
00:56:16,300 --> 00:56:18,520
Use your hands as well as your tongue.

637
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:23,420
Try palming her vulva, and as you lick,
use a long, slow, continuous finger

638
00:56:23,420 --> 00:56:26,160
-over -finger technique on either side
of the clitoris.

639
00:56:39,420 --> 00:56:44,500
Many women like having their vaginal
entrance gently stretched during oral

640
00:56:44,860 --> 00:56:49,580
by inserting a finger try inserting two
fingers and opening them slightly to

641
00:56:49,580 --> 00:56:54,860
stretch the entrance she may even want
more women can also try gripping their

642
00:56:54,860 --> 00:56:59,520
thighs together for greater friction and
making him have to dig deeper with his

643
00:56:59,520 --> 00:57:00,520
tongue

644
00:57:18,990 --> 00:57:23,270
For mutual oral sex, swath on nerve, the
69 position, is the best known.

645
00:57:25,070 --> 00:57:28,370
It's also a great position for mutual G
-spot hunting.

646
00:57:28,750 --> 00:57:31,490
Lie facing one another in the swath on
nerve position.

647
00:57:31,890 --> 00:57:37,270
Using lubrication, gently place the pad
of your index finger against his anus

648
00:57:37,270 --> 00:57:39,770
and gently push so it slips inside.

649
00:57:40,270 --> 00:57:44,550
Gently and slowly advance your finger
two to three inches up.

650
00:57:44,780 --> 00:57:49,460
the front wall until you feel a firm,
rubbery swelling, the prostate gland.

651
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:54,560
Press your fingertips firmly but gently
up against this swelling and slowly

652
00:57:54,560 --> 00:57:57,320
massage it using small circular
movements.

653
00:57:57,660 --> 00:58:01,960
Some men find this exquisitely
pleasurable and stimulation of this

654
00:58:01,960 --> 00:58:03,220
even trigger ejaculation.

655
00:58:03,500 --> 00:58:08,220
When removing your finger, do so slowly
and gently and wash your hands before

656
00:58:08,220 --> 00:58:10,020
touching each other's genitals again.

657
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:16,000
One advantage of using the classic 69
position is that, as a bonus, it gives

658
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:20,020
access to you if you want to try some
mutual G -spot searching.

659
00:58:32,140 --> 00:58:35,260
For really different oral sex, try the
love triangle.

660
00:58:35,720 --> 00:58:39,020
She leans forward to take her partner's
penis in her mouth.

661
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:42,160
while he has open access to lick her at
the same time.

662
00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:53,080
A more advanced position for mutual oral
sex is the Big O, which gives you both

663
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:56,720
improved access for simultaneous oral
and manual stimulation.

664
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:07,680
I've got my hair.

665
00:59:08,030 --> 00:59:11,990
For the superstitious and adventurous,
the vertical 69 position is worth

666
00:59:12,290 --> 00:59:15,190
although you are unlikely to be able to
keep this up for long.

667
00:59:18,770 --> 00:59:23,230
Remember, oral sex is the real way of
showing your partner how intimately you

668
00:59:23,230 --> 00:59:28,590
are involved with them, and how much you
appreciate the most private parts of

669
00:59:28,590 --> 00:59:29,590
their body.

670
00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:59,380
Particularly for intercourse, the
importance of safe sex cannot be

671
00:59:59,380 --> 01:00:03,400
underestimated. Unless you are in a long
-term relationship and know your

672
01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:06,480
partner's sexual history, you really
should use condoms.

673
01:00:10,080 --> 01:00:14,600
The secret of realising your full
orgasmic potential in intercourse, or

674
01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:18,780
your climaxes deeper, stronger and
longer, is to take all the time you

675
01:00:21,580 --> 01:00:24,680
Banish any negative thoughts so you can
fully let yourself go.

676
01:00:27,020 --> 01:00:28,920
In the end, it's your orgasm.

677
01:00:31,860 --> 01:00:36,160
Of course, your partner can add a lot,
but it means abandoning yourself fully

678
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:38,960
one of the most powerful feelings any
human being can have.

679
01:00:43,280 --> 01:00:47,320
You should have learnt a lot about your
arousal and climax from masturbation.

680
01:00:48,160 --> 01:00:52,600
If you were fine to come alone, but not
with penetrative sex, then it is a

681
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:55,740
matter of sorting out your concerns with
a partner.

682
01:01:05,100 --> 01:01:09,640
One idea is to take the pressure off
orgasming in intercourse by coming

683
01:01:09,640 --> 01:01:14,960
penetration. Apart from quick effects,
any good male lover should ensure his

684
01:01:14,960 --> 01:01:18,280
partner has at least one climax before
he enters her.

685
01:01:27,720 --> 01:01:32,500
Some women need a helping hand, their
own or their man's, to bring them off

686
01:01:32,500 --> 01:01:33,500
during intercourse.

687
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:42,000
At first, she may need continued
clitoral stimulation with his hand too.

688
01:01:43,180 --> 01:01:47,720
This is most easily done if you both lie
curled side by side facing the same

689
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:48,720
way.

690
01:01:48,800 --> 01:01:53,600
He should be able to reach over and
gently stimulate her clitoris with one

691
01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:55,880
while inserting his penis from behind.

692
01:01:56,640 --> 01:02:00,620
Some women prefer penetration only to
occur at the point of climax.

693
01:02:01,100 --> 01:02:05,280
Others prefer to feel you inside her
from the beginning using this position.

694
01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:32,660
One position that gives clitoral
stimulation with the fingers is this.

695
01:02:49,600 --> 01:02:52,620
This position gives him full access to
her breath.

696
01:02:52,910 --> 01:02:57,110
And as she moves up and down, it's
possible to stimulate her clitoris with

697
01:02:57,110 --> 01:02:59,310
hand using a good amount of lubrication.

698
01:03:01,690 --> 01:03:06,830
Women on top positions let her gain
control and can be extremely satisfying

699
01:03:06,830 --> 01:03:07,830
both of you.

700
01:03:08,930 --> 01:03:14,170
By moving up and down and varying the
speed and depth of penetration, she can

701
01:03:14,170 --> 01:03:17,310
set her own pace and reach orgasm more
easily.

702
01:03:27,690 --> 01:03:32,230
If you feel she's going too fast for
you, hold her hips so she knows to slow

703
01:03:32,230 --> 01:03:33,230
down a little.

704
01:03:35,730 --> 01:03:39,990
These positions are also good if the man
is particularly tired and his partner

705
01:03:39,990 --> 01:03:41,130
is happy to make the effort.

706
01:03:51,030 --> 01:03:55,930
For deeper, longer, stronger sex, you
can also try various techniques for

707
01:03:55,930 --> 01:03:56,930
penetration.

708
01:03:58,250 --> 01:04:02,890
Circling and semi -circling thrust
during penetration help to stimulate

709
01:04:02,890 --> 01:04:07,470
areas of the vagina and can produce
exquisite sensations and orgasm.

710
01:04:16,390 --> 01:04:18,190
Vary the pace and rhythm.

711
01:04:18,430 --> 01:04:23,310
Lower rhythms with alternating shallow
and deep strokes can help to make her

712
01:04:23,310 --> 01:04:24,310
orgasm stronger.

713
01:04:35,440 --> 01:04:38,620
Try long, deep strokes followed by
almost complete withdrawal.

714
01:04:43,860 --> 01:04:47,980
And another secret is to totally
disengage the penis from the vagina

715
01:04:47,980 --> 01:04:51,060
deep thrusts to provide maximum clitoral
stimulation.

716
01:04:53,300 --> 01:04:57,840
This is especially delicious for her if
the man slowly rubs the tip of his penis

717
01:04:57,840 --> 01:05:01,140
down the length of her clitoris during
his approach for the next penetration.

718
01:05:03,240 --> 01:05:07,860
He can also try using just the tip of
his penis in shallow motions at the

719
01:05:07,860 --> 01:05:12,500
opening of her vagina, as this is where
most of her sensitive nerve endings are,

720
01:05:12,660 --> 01:05:17,320
and where she becomes most engorged, and
so tighter during arousal.

721
01:05:31,260 --> 01:05:35,120
During intercourse, you can also
stimulate her clitoris with the base of

722
01:05:35,120 --> 01:05:39,280
penis during deep penetration by simply
lying further up her body in the

723
01:05:39,280 --> 01:05:40,280
missionary position.

724
01:05:47,580 --> 01:05:51,820
Alternatively, with the man lying on his
back and the woman lying on top, she

725
01:05:51,820 --> 01:05:54,680
brings her legs inside his for a snugger
sit.

726
01:05:55,280 --> 01:06:00,280
By keeping her legs inside his, she can
increase the friction between his penis

727
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:03,520
and her vagina and clitoris as he
thrusts into her.

728
01:06:06,640 --> 01:06:12,800
Finally, if he's come and you haven't,
try leaving his wilting penis inside you

729
01:06:12,800 --> 01:06:17,000
as you bring yourself off by rubbing up
against him and stimulating yourself

730
01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:18,060
with your hand.

731
01:06:20,200 --> 01:06:23,560
Men need just as much caressing and
stimulation as women.

732
01:06:25,640 --> 01:06:29,580
Holding his penis at the base as it
moves in and out of you can really

733
01:06:29,580 --> 01:06:30,580
his pleasure.

734
01:06:33,580 --> 01:06:37,620
It can be very arousing for both of you
if you slip a finger inside yourself

735
01:06:37,620 --> 01:06:39,840
while he is moving in and out of you.

736
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:45,360
You will feel even more filled up and
you can stimulate the sensitive head of

737
01:06:45,360 --> 01:06:46,360
his penis too.

738
01:06:51,480 --> 01:06:54,500
Try this position for the tightest grasp
of his penis.

739
01:06:55,020 --> 01:06:59,060
She squeezes her fingers together to
grip him firmly as he moves in and out.

740
01:06:59,280 --> 01:07:03,200
This position also lets her stimulate
her clitoris with her hand at the same

741
01:07:03,200 --> 01:07:07,700
time, and gives him access to caress her
breasts, clitoris, or buttocks.

742
01:07:17,480 --> 01:07:21,520
A real turn on for him is to stimulate
his balls with your fingers during

743
01:07:21,520 --> 01:07:25,000
penetration, and especially at the
moment of ejaculation.

744
01:07:25,380 --> 01:07:27,940
The base of the penis is also quite
sensitive.

745
01:07:28,440 --> 01:07:32,700
Pressing firmly against his perineum,
the area between his anus and scrotum

746
01:07:32,700 --> 01:07:36,600
during penetration, will help to
increase the intensity of his orgasm.

747
01:07:41,420 --> 01:07:46,260
Lubrication is a very useful sex aid for
avoiding soreness, heightening arousal

748
01:07:46,260 --> 01:07:48,460
and increasing sexual sensations.

749
01:07:50,120 --> 01:07:55,360
A variety of water -based gels are
available, but if you haven't any,

750
01:07:55,360 --> 01:07:56,360
provides saliva.

751
01:07:58,340 --> 01:08:02,660
Near the point of coming, there are
various techniques for making your

752
01:08:02,660 --> 01:08:03,700
all the more sensational.

753
01:08:05,820 --> 01:08:08,960
Use the stop -start routine learnt in
masturbation.

754
01:08:09,440 --> 01:08:13,320
Stop near the brink, letting your
arousal subside a little, then start

755
01:08:18,979 --> 01:08:22,399
The more you repeat this, the more
shattering your climax will be.

756
01:08:24,020 --> 01:08:28,100
The bigger the build -up, the more
intensive the contractions will be and

757
01:08:28,100 --> 01:08:32,500
release of orgasm. You can also try
tensing and flexing your muscles to

758
01:08:32,500 --> 01:08:33,500
the sensations.

759
01:08:34,010 --> 01:08:38,490
Women can try pushing out their pelvic
floor muscles instead of drawing them in

760
01:08:38,490 --> 01:08:41,529
for a totally different yet exquisite
sensation of release.

761
01:08:46,649 --> 01:08:49,529
Try deep breathing just as you are about
to come.

762
01:08:54,710 --> 01:08:58,529
To develop these techniques, it helps if
you are both able to tell when your

763
01:08:58,529 --> 01:08:59,770
partner is about to come.

764
01:09:00,120 --> 01:09:04,220
so you can stop what you're doing and
allow the suspense to build almost

765
01:09:04,220 --> 01:09:08,920
indefinitely. It's up to you how long
you want to linger and enjoy the

766
01:09:08,920 --> 01:09:13,580
pleasurable sensations your body can
produce, and at what point you want to

767
01:09:13,580 --> 01:09:15,060
strive ahead for your climax.

768
01:09:18,380 --> 01:09:23,319
In men, telltale signs of being near the
brink include tensing of the scrotum,

769
01:09:23,340 --> 01:09:27,100
thighs and abdomen, and the balls rising
tight against the base of the penis.

770
01:09:31,529 --> 01:09:35,390
In women, it can often be more difficult
to tell, although the clitoris will

771
01:09:35,390 --> 01:09:40,229
usually feel more engorged. Her nipples
will be swollen, and though you may feel

772
01:09:40,229 --> 01:09:44,590
her vaginal muscles gripping you more
tightly at the base, the upper part of

773
01:09:44,590 --> 01:09:46,970
vagina will balloon and so feel looser.

774
01:09:48,670 --> 01:09:53,390
In both men and women, breathing will
become more rapid, and one in four

775
01:09:53,390 --> 01:09:57,990
develop a reddening sex flush that
starts on the lower abdomen or chest and

776
01:09:57,990 --> 01:09:59,630
spread to the neck, face and limbs.

777
01:10:00,090 --> 01:10:04,050
It is also common to start perspiring
more than would be usual for this amount

778
01:10:04,050 --> 01:10:05,050
of exercise.

779
01:10:07,490 --> 01:10:11,270
Communicate verbally or with your body
to let your partner know when to slow

780
01:10:11,270 --> 01:10:13,910
down or speed up to maximize the
sensations.

781
01:10:20,030 --> 01:10:23,090
Expressing yourself is one of the
secrets of sensational sex.

782
01:10:28,560 --> 01:10:30,440
Know and cry out if you want to.

783
01:10:32,340 --> 01:10:34,400
It's all part of letting yourself go.

784
01:10:34,960 --> 01:10:39,800
Don't feel inhibited and be prepared to
ask for what you want and to show your

785
01:10:39,800 --> 01:10:42,260
partner so that they can get it right
for you.

786
01:10:44,000 --> 01:10:48,460
Give simple words of encouragement or a
gentle message to try something else.

787
01:11:05,520 --> 01:11:10,440
Your processes of sexual arousal are
finally soon, so you need to be able to

788
01:11:10,440 --> 01:11:13,960
interpret each other's moans of pleasure
to know when you're doing something the

789
01:11:13,960 --> 01:11:18,600
other likes, and equally need warning
when you do something they're less

790
01:11:30,830 --> 01:11:34,590
A helping hand is often the best way of
bringing you both to a simultaneous

791
01:11:34,590 --> 01:11:38,810
orgasm. But it's wise not to make coming
together too much of a goal.

792
01:11:39,310 --> 01:11:43,930
Let each other know where you like being
touched, either by telling her or by

793
01:11:43,930 --> 01:11:46,410
taking their fingers in yours and
showing them what to do.

794
01:11:58,800 --> 01:12:02,840
If you're unsure what your partner is
trying to tell you, it really helps to

795
01:12:02,840 --> 01:12:07,760
ask. A whispered, is that good, or do
you want me to stop, will usually get

796
01:12:07,760 --> 01:12:08,760
back on track.

797
01:12:11,580 --> 01:12:15,920
If you develop the techniques that delay
orgasms and make them deeper, longer

798
01:12:15,920 --> 01:12:19,900
and stronger when they do come, then you
and your partner will be well on the

799
01:12:19,900 --> 01:12:22,340
way to enjoying truly sensational sex.

800
01:12:47,850 --> 01:12:52,530
Having a varied repertoire requires
knowing a number of sexual positions,

801
01:12:52,530 --> 01:12:53,990
simple, some quite advanced.

802
01:12:54,390 --> 01:12:59,130
Each has benefits, usually for both
partners, and different ones can be used

803
01:12:59,130 --> 01:13:00,370
different needs and occasions.

804
01:13:08,550 --> 01:13:12,010
Experimenting with the many hundreds of
ways that two bodies can be intertwined

805
01:13:12,010 --> 01:13:14,410
is very arousing and great fun in
itself.

806
01:13:21,200 --> 01:13:25,780
So test which ones heighten pleasure for
one or both of you. Some allow deeper

807
01:13:25,780 --> 01:13:31,160
penetration, improved stimulation of the
clitoris, G -spot, or a tighter grip on

808
01:13:31,160 --> 01:13:32,160
the penis.

809
01:13:39,160 --> 01:13:44,120
While others offer greater visual
delight or accessibility of erogenous

810
01:13:46,480 --> 01:13:50,380
Getting into some of the more advanced
ones shouldn't be taken too seriously,

811
01:13:50,480 --> 01:13:52,010
though. Have a laugh trying.

812
01:13:52,290 --> 01:13:54,130
Sex, after all, should be great fun.

813
01:13:57,690 --> 01:14:02,250
Penetration from behind often gives the
most satisfying orgasms for women, as

814
01:14:02,250 --> 01:14:05,750
this stretches the front wall of the
vagina where the G -spot is found.

815
01:14:12,290 --> 01:14:16,450
Another position good for stimulating
the G -spot is to make love when lying

816
01:14:16,450 --> 01:14:19,610
curled up side by side, with his front
to her back.

817
01:14:25,870 --> 01:14:28,830
This is especially good when you both
want a close cuddle.

818
01:14:40,990 --> 01:14:44,130
This position allows him to penetrate
her very deeply.

819
01:14:47,250 --> 01:14:50,870
And this one allows full stroke movement
and deep penetration.

820
01:14:53,390 --> 01:14:58,010
For deeper, tighter penetration, this
position lets him push forward, where he

821
01:14:58,010 --> 01:14:59,910
can penetrate her as fully as possible.

822
01:15:11,050 --> 01:15:14,810
In this position, you could slip a
pillow under her buttocks, which allows

823
01:15:14,810 --> 01:15:15,810
to thrust deeper.

824
01:15:17,350 --> 01:15:21,410
And, as a bonus, it also helps increase
the sensation of tightness.

825
01:15:25,260 --> 01:15:29,680
More energetic couples can enjoy
lovemaking standing up with the woman's

826
01:15:29,680 --> 01:15:32,620
around his neck and her legs entwined
around his waist.

827
01:15:44,880 --> 01:15:49,520
This one is particularly good for the
second time around, when his penis may

828
01:15:49,520 --> 01:15:50,520
be fully erect.

829
01:15:50,800 --> 01:15:54,760
It allows her to control the rate of
movement and the depth of penetration.

830
01:15:56,920 --> 01:16:01,060
He has the freedom to move up and down
with the knees and to thrust forward if

831
01:16:01,060 --> 01:16:02,060
he wishes.

832
01:16:23,690 --> 01:16:26,150
Let your imagination run away with you.

833
01:16:41,570 --> 01:16:43,090
Not to mention your body.

834
01:16:52,680 --> 01:16:56,920
and adventurously explore all the many
different ways you can entwine yourself

835
01:16:56,920 --> 01:17:01,740
in the discovery of ever more
sensational sex.

836
01:17:19,600 --> 01:17:22,700
One of the great secrets of sensational
sex is variety.

837
01:17:23,020 --> 01:17:27,120
One exciting way to keep bringing the
changes is for you and your partner to

838
01:17:27,120 --> 01:17:29,020
think of your love life as a secret
affair.

839
01:17:29,460 --> 01:17:33,360
With this way of thinking, you're
unlikely to fall into the trap of doing

840
01:17:33,360 --> 01:17:37,380
same things time and time again, and let
your appetites become jaded.

841
01:17:40,800 --> 01:17:42,080
Vary the time of day.

842
01:17:42,520 --> 01:17:44,800
Don't wait until night when you're both
tired.

843
01:17:45,080 --> 01:17:46,580
Make time for sex.

844
01:17:47,500 --> 01:17:51,900
Weekends and holidays provide great
opportunities, but what if you both take

845
01:17:51,900 --> 01:17:56,120
long lunch in bed together or a few
hours off work just for the two of you?

846
01:17:58,320 --> 01:18:02,860
Vary the location all around the house
or try sex outside for some added

847
01:18:02,860 --> 01:18:03,860
excitement.

848
01:18:08,660 --> 01:18:11,280
Try rooms you've never used for sex
before.

849
01:18:17,420 --> 01:18:20,520
The bathroom can be one of the most
erotic rooms in the house.

850
01:18:23,020 --> 01:18:27,180
Don't just vary the setting, spend some
time getting the atmosphere right.

851
01:18:39,700 --> 01:18:43,460
Using a large mirror near the bed can
also increase excitement.

852
01:18:44,140 --> 01:18:47,920
and adds a voyeuristic element, letting
you watch each other's facial responses

853
01:18:47,920 --> 01:18:50,860
and see your partner's body from
different angles.

854
01:19:03,120 --> 01:19:05,900
Surprise each other while watching TV.

855
01:19:10,500 --> 01:19:12,040
Try sexy clothing.

856
01:19:12,360 --> 01:19:15,190
Make love through it. Don't always be
naked.

857
01:19:16,430 --> 01:19:21,910
Find things, books, videos, fantasies to
turn you on and expand your repertoire.

858
01:19:22,390 --> 01:19:23,770
Anything that will help.

859
01:19:24,050 --> 01:19:28,450
Go to sex shops together, get their
catalogues or look them up on the

860
01:19:32,130 --> 01:19:33,770
Use melting ice cubes.

861
01:19:34,030 --> 01:19:38,550
Even slip one into the vagina or anus,
but make sure it is half melted first.

862
01:19:51,150 --> 01:19:55,330
One secret of advanced lovers is
applying a little spearmint or

863
01:19:55,330 --> 01:20:00,350
toothpaste under the foreskin for an
extra tingle. This is especially helpful

864
01:20:00,350 --> 01:20:04,010
second time round to re -stimulate an
erection.

865
01:20:04,810 --> 01:20:09,790
Sex toys also have an important role to
play. For example, vibrators have been

866
01:20:09,790 --> 01:20:14,070
available for years and continue to be
popular because they work faster than

867
01:20:14,070 --> 01:20:15,070
hand or tongue.

868
01:20:16,910 --> 01:20:21,490
They can produce exquisite sensations
when used around the clitoris, but can

869
01:20:21,490 --> 01:20:23,170
used on all the erogenous zones.

870
01:20:28,790 --> 01:20:30,270
Vibrators are not just for women.

871
01:20:30,530 --> 01:20:34,690
Use them to stimulate the penis,
especially the frenulum, which is the

872
01:20:34,690 --> 01:20:36,630
ridge of skin at the back of the
foreskin.

873
01:20:38,130 --> 01:20:40,630
His perineum, scrotum and nipples too.

874
01:20:45,580 --> 01:20:49,240
Many couples find mild bondage a real
turn -on.

875
01:20:50,060 --> 01:20:53,760
Alternate taking control in one session
and then being really passive in

876
01:20:53,760 --> 01:20:54,760
another.

877
01:20:55,660 --> 01:21:00,260
Lying there submissively while your
partner does exactly what he or she

878
01:21:00,260 --> 01:21:04,060
you can be one of the most erotic ways
to make sex more sensational.

879
01:21:14,990 --> 01:21:17,050
It is important, though, to know your
limits.

880
01:21:17,290 --> 01:21:21,630
Be adventurous, but don't get carried
too far beyond what you're comfortable

881
01:21:21,630 --> 01:21:22,630
with.

882
01:21:25,270 --> 01:21:28,990
Being a good lover means maximising your
own and your partner's pleasure.

883
01:21:29,410 --> 01:21:33,870
It doesn't have to involve weirder and
weirder practices, but it should involve

884
01:21:33,870 --> 01:21:38,650
keeping your sex life fresh, exciting
and adventurous for you both.

885
01:21:40,810 --> 01:21:44,730
Remember to keep your sexuality as an
integral part of your lives.

886
01:21:45,210 --> 01:21:49,570
Physical and emotional intimacy are two
of the key elements in maintaining a

887
01:21:49,570 --> 01:21:50,570
healthy sex life.

888
01:21:51,130 --> 01:21:54,430
Sensitivity and sensuality are equally
important.

889
01:21:55,490 --> 01:22:00,670
Keep romance alive in your relationship
and keep your partner feeling wanted and

890
01:22:00,670 --> 01:22:01,670
sexy.

891
01:22:07,180 --> 01:22:12,080
The way you behave in the rest of your
relationship can directly impact on your

892
01:22:12,080 --> 01:22:13,080
sex life.

893
01:22:13,740 --> 01:22:15,080
So have a great time.

894
01:22:18,020 --> 01:22:22,160
Always treat your lover with respect and
try to understand their wants and

895
01:22:22,160 --> 01:22:23,160
needs.

896
01:22:25,540 --> 01:22:30,040
Sensational sex comes from being free of
inhibitions, so try not to be

897
01:22:30,040 --> 01:22:32,320
embarrassed when things don't always go
to plan.

898
01:22:33,780 --> 01:22:38,380
Ultimately, keeping a sense of fun and
openness will help ensure that your sex

899
01:22:38,380 --> 01:22:40,140
life is alive and well.

900
01:24:32,140 --> 01:24:37,700
people having sex means penetrative
intercourse and an orgasm and most

901
01:24:37,700 --> 01:24:42,200
take sex seriously worrying about
whether they're doing it properly rather

902
01:24:42,200 --> 01:24:47,860
giving in to the moment and simply
enjoying themselves there's much more to

903
01:24:47,860 --> 01:24:52,260
great love making than just intercourse
in the same way as there's much more to

904
01:24:52,260 --> 01:24:58,400
sex than reproduction spending time on
sex play will help you relax and really

905
01:24:58,400 --> 01:25:00,660
make love so

906
01:25:01,370 --> 01:25:03,610
Why sex play rather than foreplay?

907
01:25:04,310 --> 01:25:08,750
Quite simply because foreplay implies
that it's just the starter, with

908
01:25:08,750 --> 01:25:10,630
penetrative sex being the main course.

909
01:25:12,030 --> 01:25:16,870
Sex play can be a sensual feast in its
own right and shouldn't just be seen as

910
01:25:16,870 --> 01:25:18,950
something you do to get to the main bit.

911
01:25:21,870 --> 01:25:26,950
After all, how can you really enjoy it
if your mind is on what comes next?

912
01:25:28,170 --> 01:25:30,790
And don't forget the play part of sex
play.

913
01:25:31,070 --> 01:25:35,710
Great sex has a sense of humour. After
all, rubbing body parts together in a

914
01:25:35,710 --> 01:25:39,370
frenzied way could be seen as a slightly
ridiculous thing to do.

915
01:25:39,870 --> 01:25:44,490
There's no need to take sex so seriously
that you lose the sense of exploration

916
01:25:44,490 --> 01:25:45,490
and fun.

917
01:25:46,610 --> 01:25:48,370
Relaxation is also essential.

918
01:25:49,070 --> 01:25:53,890
Allow time to set aside the stresses of
the day and to connect with your

919
01:25:53,890 --> 01:25:59,100
partner. As Martha Johnston said, good
sex begins when all your clothes are

920
01:25:59,100 --> 01:26:00,100
still on.

921
01:26:00,300 --> 01:26:05,480
Go for romantic walks together, share a
bottle of wine over dinner, have a bath

922
01:26:05,480 --> 01:26:09,320
together or simply gaze into your
partner's eyes and say that you love

923
01:26:10,260 --> 01:26:15,860
As with all sex play, do whatever makes
you both feel good and you'll be laying

924
01:26:15,860 --> 01:26:18,040
the foundations for a fabulous time
together.

925
01:26:19,280 --> 01:26:24,620
By treating sex play as important in its
own right, the pressure to perform is

926
01:26:24,620 --> 01:26:29,300
removed. Men can stop worrying about
staying erect and having to perform on

927
01:26:29,300 --> 01:26:33,400
demand, and women can throw away their
concerns about coming through

928
01:26:33,400 --> 01:26:34,400
alone.

929
01:26:34,840 --> 01:26:38,740
A woman will always respect a man who
helped her to achieve orgasm before

930
01:26:38,740 --> 01:26:43,960
penetration. It shows that he cares
about her and that he sees sex as more

931
01:26:43,960 --> 01:26:45,460
simply a way to ejaculate.

932
01:26:46,350 --> 01:26:50,050
And a man will feel fantastic if he
knows that he's a good lover, and even

933
01:26:50,050 --> 01:26:53,230
better if he has a partner who loves
pleasuring him too.

934
01:26:54,310 --> 01:26:57,870
There's no doubt that sex play can
improve intercourse.

935
01:26:58,290 --> 01:27:03,130
Only about 25 % of women can climax
through penetrative sex alone.

936
01:27:03,610 --> 01:27:10,170
This increases to over 93 % if the man
spends 20 minutes or more on sex play.

937
01:27:10,610 --> 01:27:14,270
So this is the real key to great
lovemaking.

938
01:27:24,140 --> 01:27:28,380
The joy of a long and intimate kissing
session should never be overlooked.

939
01:27:28,740 --> 01:27:32,380
The Kama Sutra says that kissing kindles
love.

940
01:27:32,760 --> 01:27:39,080
There's no doubt about it. Kissing is an
incredibly sensual act, and almost

941
01:27:39,080 --> 01:27:41,780
everyone can remember their first kiss.

942
01:27:43,280 --> 01:27:48,720
In the early stages of a relationship,
couples tend to kiss regularly, but it

943
01:27:48,720 --> 01:27:51,320
can easily become a neglected part of
sex play.

944
01:27:51,840 --> 01:27:56,600
Many couples slip into pressing the
right buttons and forget the joy of

945
01:27:56,600 --> 01:27:58,440
lingering hours spent kissing.

946
01:28:01,820 --> 01:28:07,020
However, a really good kiss can be far
more memorable than a lacklustre sex

947
01:28:07,020 --> 01:28:11,420
session. According to Relate, couples
that kiss regularly but don't make love

948
01:28:11,420 --> 01:28:15,580
are more likely to stay together than
couples that are at it like rabbits but

949
01:28:15,580 --> 01:28:16,580
rarely kiss.

950
01:28:17,300 --> 01:28:18,920
For the perfect kiss...

951
01:28:19,160 --> 01:28:21,900
Start gently. Touch your partner's lips
with your own.

952
01:28:22,280 --> 01:28:25,860
Simply feeling your partner's mouth on
your own can get your juices flowing.

953
01:28:26,260 --> 01:28:31,100
Kiss your partner's face, their eyelids,
eyebrows, forehead, cheeks, nose,

954
01:28:31,420 --> 01:28:32,820
wherever else feels right.

955
01:28:33,140 --> 01:28:37,260
Once the kisses are getting stronger,
run your tongue softly over your

956
01:28:37,260 --> 01:28:40,140
lips and be sure to pay attention to how
they respond.

957
01:28:40,890 --> 01:28:44,930
If they seem to enjoy it, dart your
tongue lightly over their lips, then

958
01:28:44,930 --> 01:28:45,829
their mouth.

959
01:28:45,830 --> 01:28:48,190
Run it between their gums and lips.

960
01:28:48,650 --> 01:28:53,490
Explore inside their mouth. And when
their tongue meets yours, play with it

961
01:28:53,490 --> 01:28:54,490
your own.

962
01:28:55,610 --> 01:28:56,770
Vary your kisses.

963
01:28:56,990 --> 01:29:00,990
A level of unpredictability makes
everything much more exciting.

964
01:29:01,840 --> 01:29:06,460
Alternatively, you could try an Eskimo
kiss, which isn't simply rubbing noses,

965
01:29:06,460 --> 01:29:11,080
as is commonly perceived. A true Eskimo
kiss involves putting your nose close to

966
01:29:11,080 --> 01:29:13,360
your partner's and breathing in their
spirit.

967
01:29:14,460 --> 01:29:18,880
Kissing passionately can be even more
arousing than direct genital contact,

968
01:29:19,200 --> 01:29:20,440
particularly for women.

969
01:29:20,660 --> 01:29:24,520
There are even a few lucky people who
can climax through kissing alone.

970
01:29:24,980 --> 01:29:29,600
Most importantly, learn what your
partner wants. Ask them to kiss you the

971
01:29:29,600 --> 01:29:30,840
they would like to be kissed.

972
01:29:31,100 --> 01:29:32,220
Then do the same to them.

973
01:29:33,080 --> 01:29:36,980
During a long kissing session, you'll
probably both be aching with desire.

974
01:29:37,260 --> 01:29:42,040
And it can be a good time to extend the
kissing over your partner's body and use

975
01:29:42,040 --> 01:29:43,580
your lips to tease their nipples.

976
01:29:43,880 --> 01:29:47,100
Remember, many men like their nipples
kissed too.

977
01:29:47,620 --> 01:29:51,920
Work your way down your partner's torso,
kissing their stomach and maybe

978
01:29:51,920 --> 01:29:56,520
flickering your tongue into their navel.
Rather than moving straight into oral

979
01:29:56,520 --> 01:30:01,830
sex... Carry on kissing down over thighs
and calves, maybe just briefly letting

980
01:30:01,830 --> 01:30:05,950
them feel the warmth of your breath on
their genitals before you move on.

981
01:30:08,030 --> 01:30:12,510
Skin creases like the backs of knees or
inside of elbows can be incredibly

982
01:30:12,510 --> 01:30:16,350
sensitive, so gently suck or nibble all
over their body.

983
01:30:16,650 --> 01:30:20,830
But be careful about leaving love bites.
There's no need to brand your partner

984
01:30:20,830 --> 01:30:21,890
to prove that they're yours.

985
01:30:24,690 --> 01:30:29,550
Caressing is a wonderful addition to
kissing. Run your fingers gently along

986
01:30:29,550 --> 01:30:33,470
their arms and down their back. If they
shiver with pleasure, then you're doing

987
01:30:33,470 --> 01:30:34,470
something right.

988
01:30:35,630 --> 01:30:37,930
Not all kisses involve the mouth.

989
01:30:38,150 --> 01:30:42,570
You can try a butterfly kiss, fluttering
your eyelashes over their body to make

990
01:30:42,570 --> 01:30:43,570
them feel cherished.

991
01:30:43,970 --> 01:30:47,450
Butterfly kisses can work wonders in
more intimate places.

992
01:30:50,000 --> 01:30:52,660
Some people find toe kissing incredibly
sexy.

993
01:30:52,920 --> 01:30:57,700
Let your lips play over your partner's
foot, and after working your lips over

994
01:30:57,700 --> 01:31:01,440
their sole and the top of their foot,
try sucking their toes.

995
01:31:02,700 --> 01:31:05,560
And return the favour for them, too.

996
01:31:06,260 --> 01:31:11,140
Above all else, don't feel like kissing
always has to move on to something more.

997
01:31:11,300 --> 01:31:14,940
It's intimate, romantic and sexy in its
own right.

998
01:31:25,260 --> 01:31:28,920
Many men and women find it a challenge
to give their partner a really good

999
01:31:28,920 --> 01:31:30,680
orgasm with their fingers or hand.

1000
01:31:30,980 --> 01:31:32,900
But there's no need for that to be the
case.

1001
01:31:33,140 --> 01:31:36,840
There are numerous techniques that can
help each of you to give your partner a

1002
01:31:36,840 --> 01:31:37,940
huge amount of pleasure.

1003
01:31:38,920 --> 01:31:43,580
Watching your partner masturbate will
give you a sexy lesson on what to do and

1004
01:31:43,580 --> 01:31:46,020
is often an intensely erotic experience.

1005
01:31:46,580 --> 01:31:50,360
It's also true that many women lack
confidence with men.

1006
01:31:51,600 --> 01:31:56,200
Remember, most men masturbate regularly,
so they're the best person to show you

1007
01:31:56,200 --> 01:31:57,119
what they like.

1008
01:31:57,120 --> 01:32:02,880
Ask your partner to masturbate using
your hand. Let your hand relax and let

1009
01:32:02,880 --> 01:32:04,540
control your movements entirely.

1010
01:32:06,120 --> 01:32:10,460
Most importantly, listen to your
partner's reactions and watch them to

1011
01:32:10,460 --> 01:32:11,820
exactly what they enjoy.

1012
01:32:12,060 --> 01:32:16,680
Remember, everyone's different, so some
techniques will work on a particular

1013
01:32:16,680 --> 01:32:18,120
person better than others.

1014
01:32:19,620 --> 01:32:21,340
Don't just stick to one technique.

1015
01:32:21,560 --> 01:32:25,740
Surprise your partner with a change of
stroke or caress to keep things fresh.

1016
01:32:26,280 --> 01:32:30,640
Just don't change technique as they're
about to climax, unless you want to be a

1017
01:32:30,640 --> 01:32:31,640
real thief.

1018
01:32:45,480 --> 01:32:50,960
Hand jobs are a great and usually easy
way to make a man climax, so long as the

1019
01:32:50,960 --> 01:32:51,960
woman is confident.

1020
01:32:52,400 --> 01:32:55,440
First, get your partner into the right
frame of mind.

1021
01:32:55,700 --> 01:33:00,980
Flirt with him, kiss him, tell him how
much you want him. Then stroke his

1022
01:33:01,080 --> 01:33:03,120
moving gradually down his torso.

1023
01:33:03,360 --> 01:33:08,060
Tell him that he's gorgeous and don't
forget to praise his penis. Every man

1024
01:33:08,060 --> 01:33:11,760
wants to hear that his penis is big,
thick or even just attractive.

1025
01:33:13,800 --> 01:33:18,020
Stroke his penis and testicles until he
rises to the occasion, if he hasn't

1026
01:33:18,020 --> 01:33:19,860
already. Then, get a grip.

1027
01:33:20,060 --> 01:33:22,820
Men tend to like a reasonable amount of
pressure.

1028
01:33:23,380 --> 01:33:28,300
Imagine you're giving his penis a firm
handshake. A confident hold reassures

1029
01:33:28,300 --> 01:33:30,740
that you know and enjoy what you're
doing.

1030
01:33:32,520 --> 01:33:36,540
When you've found the technique your
partner likes, maintain a steady rhythm,

1031
01:33:36,680 --> 01:33:39,400
unless you want to keep him at the edge
of pleasure for hours.

1032
01:33:40,140 --> 01:33:44,560
Carry on until he climaxes or change to
some other form of sex play, depending

1033
01:33:44,560 --> 01:33:45,760
on what you both feel like.

1034
01:33:46,920 --> 01:33:50,500
Changing position can also change the
way a handjob feels.

1035
01:33:51,140 --> 01:33:55,000
Ideally, you need a position that lets
your arm take some of the strain.

1036
01:33:55,460 --> 01:34:00,460
Try emulating your partner's
masturbation technique by sitting behind

1037
01:34:00,460 --> 01:34:05,100
reaching across his body so that your
hand's approaching his penis from the

1038
01:34:05,100 --> 01:34:07,500
angle that he does when he masturbates.

1039
01:34:10,110 --> 01:34:14,510
Rather than gripping him as you usually
would, ask him to move your fingers

1040
01:34:14,510 --> 01:34:17,650
until you're holding him in the way he'd
normally touch himself.

1041
01:34:18,390 --> 01:34:22,410
Ask him to put his hand around your hand
so that you can get an idea of his

1042
01:34:22,410 --> 01:34:23,470
preferred level of pressure.

1043
01:34:23,890 --> 01:34:28,830
He can even masturbate with your hand
inside his to give you an exact idea of

1044
01:34:28,830 --> 01:34:29,830
his stroke.

1045
01:34:29,850 --> 01:34:34,250
Alternatively, lie on the bed next to
your partner and rest your elbows on the

1046
01:34:34,250 --> 01:34:38,790
bed at groin level. Use one or both
hands to masturbate him in this

1047
01:34:41,070 --> 01:34:44,810
You can lie on your back with your
partner straddling your chest when

1048
01:34:44,810 --> 01:34:45,830
masturbating your partner.

1049
01:34:46,290 --> 01:34:49,830
Grip him with one or both hands and let
him control the thrust.

1050
01:34:50,410 --> 01:34:54,290
This is a great position if you're
feeling tired, as all you have to do is

1051
01:34:54,290 --> 01:34:56,330
your fist clenched and arms still.

1052
01:34:57,030 --> 01:35:02,010
Or try approaching from behind, pressing
your breasts into his back as you

1053
01:35:02,010 --> 01:35:03,310
stroke his penis and balls.

1054
01:35:03,610 --> 01:35:04,850
Your partner can sit.

1055
01:35:05,210 --> 01:35:08,270
Stand, lie down or kneel while you
masturbate him.

1056
01:35:08,610 --> 01:35:10,790
Whichever you choose has its own
benefits.

1057
01:35:11,610 --> 01:35:15,290
And hand jobs while you kneel in front
of your partner can give him an extra

1058
01:35:15,290 --> 01:35:19,510
thrill. You can easily reach his balls
and stroke his frenulum from this angle

1059
01:35:19,510 --> 01:35:23,610
that he can feel masterful, which may
appeal to you if you're into power play.

1060
01:35:26,750 --> 01:35:31,610
You can also widen your sexual
repertoire with different hand job

1061
01:35:32,480 --> 01:35:37,160
Squeezing an orange is less scary than
it sounds and can be a fun and effective

1062
01:35:37,160 --> 01:35:38,880
way to give your man pleasure.

1063
01:35:39,800 --> 01:35:44,060
Rub and squeeze the head and spin your
wrist as if you were trying to juice an

1064
01:35:44,060 --> 01:35:48,780
orange. Your other hand can stroke his
shaft or testicles at the same time for

1065
01:35:48,780 --> 01:35:49,780
maximum pleasure.

1066
01:35:50,300 --> 01:35:54,960
A variation on this involves
masturbating your partner's penis with

1067
01:35:54,960 --> 01:36:00,220
while the other, well -lubricated hand,
palm flat, rubs over the head in a

1068
01:36:00,220 --> 01:36:01,220
circular motion.

1069
01:36:02,139 --> 01:36:06,380
Experiment with the pressure of your
grip until you find the best sensation

1070
01:36:06,380 --> 01:36:07,380
him.

1071
01:36:09,120 --> 01:36:11,660
Another great technique is basket
weaving.

1072
01:36:11,980 --> 01:36:15,840
Link your fingers together and clasp
both hands around your partner's shaft.

1073
01:36:16,280 --> 01:36:21,080
Push both hands to the base of his
shaft, twist them, slide your hands to

1074
01:36:21,080 --> 01:36:24,100
top of his shaft, twist at the top, and
repeat.

1075
01:36:25,080 --> 01:36:30,100
The church involves making your hands
like a steeple and putting them over

1076
01:36:30,100 --> 01:36:31,100
partner's penis.

1077
01:36:31,440 --> 01:36:34,500
with the thumbs rubbing over his
frenulum.

1078
01:36:37,000 --> 01:36:42,600
Or try hands together, in which you
slide both hands up and down his shaft.

1079
01:36:45,400 --> 01:36:49,240
Vary this by crossing your hands with
your thumbs facing forwards.

1080
01:36:54,220 --> 01:36:59,740
Or try the fire starter in which you
roll his penis between your hands as if

1081
01:36:59,740 --> 01:37:01,920
using a stick to start a fire.

1082
01:37:03,540 --> 01:37:06,960
The birdcage will tease every part of
your partner.

1083
01:37:07,300 --> 01:37:11,620
Grip your partner's penis with one hand
while the other strokes the head,

1084
01:37:11,780 --> 01:37:14,240
rotating it for maximum pleasure.

1085
01:37:16,520 --> 01:37:18,020
Or try the heartbeat.

1086
01:37:18,640 --> 01:37:23,400
Clasp your hands together as you do with
basket weaving, then pulse them as you

1087
01:37:23,400 --> 01:37:28,520
slide them up and down. This mimics the
way your vagina moves around him. As he

1088
01:37:28,520 --> 01:37:32,440
gets more aroused, you may want to
change back to basket weaving to help

1089
01:37:32,440 --> 01:37:33,440
climax.

1090
01:37:34,620 --> 01:37:37,880
The rings is a wonderfully effective
masturbation technique.

1091
01:37:38,380 --> 01:37:42,820
Form the OK sign with both hands, then
encircle the head of the penis with the

1092
01:37:42,820 --> 01:37:44,380
OK ring of each hand.

1093
01:37:45,160 --> 01:37:49,780
Keep up a steady motion, then speed up
as your partner gets more aroused. You

1094
01:37:49,780 --> 01:37:53,900
can also use the rings at the top of his
penis or twist in opposite directions.

1095
01:37:57,600 --> 01:38:03,300
Try using both hands alternately, as
though paying out a thick, endless rope,

1096
01:38:03,300 --> 01:38:07,880
using both hands together, one above the
other. The frenulum or frenum is

1097
01:38:07,880 --> 01:38:10,040
particularly sensitive for many men.

1098
01:38:10,260 --> 01:38:13,180
This is the stringy bit under the head
of the penis.

1099
01:38:13,900 --> 01:38:17,780
Try rubbing your thumb across it as you
masturbate his shaft.

1100
01:38:19,460 --> 01:38:23,320
Indeed, you should generally put your
thumb to good use when you're

1101
01:38:23,320 --> 01:38:24,099
your partner.

1102
01:38:24,100 --> 01:38:28,380
Slide your hands up and down, letting
them rub against his frenulum and the

1103
01:38:28,380 --> 01:38:29,540
on the front of his penis.

1104
01:38:31,920 --> 01:38:36,200
Other fun things include making a rain
pattern with your hands.

1105
01:38:39,280 --> 01:38:42,520
Or letting the penis clap against your
hand.

1106
01:38:44,330 --> 01:38:45,410
or his stomach.

1107
01:38:47,330 --> 01:38:51,290
Pulling down a man's foreskin and
holding it firmly towards the base of

1108
01:38:51,290 --> 01:38:54,410
penis can also intensify feelings for
him.

1109
01:38:55,350 --> 01:38:59,750
If you want to get really creative, a
pearl necklace can add an unusual thrill

1110
01:38:59,750 --> 01:39:00,750
to a hand job.

1111
01:39:01,110 --> 01:39:03,970
Lubricate it and then wrap it around his
shaft.

1112
01:39:04,290 --> 01:39:08,410
He'll get an extra thrill from the beads
rolling up and down his shaft.

1113
01:39:09,270 --> 01:39:12,350
Or try different textures, like silk.

1114
01:39:15,500 --> 01:39:18,560
or fake fur wrapped around his penis.

1115
01:39:22,980 --> 01:39:27,580
No matter what the technique or the
position, it's important to remember

1116
01:39:27,580 --> 01:39:30,640
hand jobs are about far more than just
the shaft of the penis.

1117
01:39:31,160 --> 01:39:35,960
Lots of men have sensitive nipples and
inner thighs, so don't neglect them.

1118
01:39:36,320 --> 01:39:39,420
Ask if he likes having them stroked or
lightly scratched.

1119
01:39:41,100 --> 01:39:45,800
And many men complain their testicles
are neglected, so give them the

1120
01:39:45,800 --> 01:39:46,800
they deserve.

1121
01:39:46,820 --> 01:39:51,560
Use masturbation techniques that involve
the testicles, like the taffy pull,

1122
01:39:51,700 --> 01:39:56,500
where you gently tug their testicles, or
the batter -up, where you rub over

1123
01:39:56,500 --> 01:40:00,960
their testicles, cupping them to pull
them upwards and curling your fingers

1124
01:40:00,960 --> 01:40:01,960
the head of the penis.

1125
01:40:02,280 --> 01:40:05,080
Stroke them, cup them, or roll them in
your hands.

1126
01:40:06,540 --> 01:40:11,500
Some men like it if you tug their
testicles at the point of orgasm. Don't

1127
01:40:11,500 --> 01:40:15,580
too much pressure. The testicles are
tender and can be easily bruised, so

1128
01:40:15,580 --> 01:40:16,580
with care.

1129
01:40:17,000 --> 01:40:21,400
The top of the scrotum, just below the
shaft of the penis, is also a common

1130
01:40:21,400 --> 01:40:22,400
erogenous zone.

1131
01:40:22,780 --> 01:40:26,920
Stroke it while you masturbate him to
make his balls jiggle and give him an

1132
01:40:26,920 --> 01:40:27,920
extra thrill.

1133
01:40:29,240 --> 01:40:33,420
And then there's the perineum. This is a
super -sensitive area between the balls

1134
01:40:33,420 --> 01:40:34,420
and the anus.

1135
01:40:34,750 --> 01:40:38,790
Try pressing on it while you masturbate
your partner's shaft as it stimulates

1136
01:40:38,790 --> 01:40:40,410
the prostate gland from the outside.

1137
01:40:40,710 --> 01:40:45,070
The prostate gland is a chestnut -shaped
lump about a third of the way up the

1138
01:40:45,070 --> 01:40:46,470
man's anus on the inside.

1139
01:40:48,330 --> 01:40:54,770
If your partner is willing, try sliding
a finger or even a toy inside his anus

1140
01:40:54,770 --> 01:40:57,930
and gently stroking his prostate while
you masturbate him.

1141
01:40:58,400 --> 01:41:01,600
This can give some men the most intense
orgasms ever.

1142
01:41:01,820 --> 01:41:06,800
However, make sure that any finger
inserted into an anus is clean, has

1143
01:41:06,800 --> 01:41:08,840
nails and is well lubricated.

1144
01:41:09,280 --> 01:41:14,440
Ideally, use latex gloves or a condom on
the toy or your fingers to prevent

1145
01:41:14,440 --> 01:41:15,440
infection.

1146
01:41:19,480 --> 01:41:22,420
There aren't many ways you can get a
handjob wrong.

1147
01:41:22,780 --> 01:41:27,180
However, you should avoid pulling his
penis down using your nails.

1148
01:41:27,640 --> 01:41:32,540
or masturbating an unlubricated penis
too fast, as it could cause pain and

1149
01:41:32,540 --> 01:41:33,540
friction burns.

1150
01:41:34,520 --> 01:41:39,820
Ask your partner what he wants. There's
no need to be shy, after all. If you're

1151
01:41:39,820 --> 01:41:43,300
close enough to make love, you're close
enough to talk about it.

1152
01:41:45,480 --> 01:41:48,700
If your hand gets tired, there are
various options.

1153
01:41:49,160 --> 01:41:51,920
Swap hands. Ask him to take over.

1154
01:41:53,420 --> 01:41:57,560
Or ask him to wrap his hand around yours
and control the pace.

1155
01:42:00,380 --> 01:42:04,920
Let your partner know that you want to
please him and your relationship may

1156
01:42:04,920 --> 01:42:07,120
improve as much as your handjob
technique.

1157
01:42:19,950 --> 01:42:24,590
Pleasuring a woman with your fingers can
be immensely satisfying for her and a

1158
01:42:24,590 --> 01:42:25,830
good way of expressing intimacy.

1159
01:42:27,150 --> 01:42:31,670
It's important to realise that manually
stimulating a woman is rarely about

1160
01:42:31,670 --> 01:42:32,670
penetration.

1161
01:42:33,370 --> 01:42:38,830
Start by stroking her pubic mound,
vaginal lips, and particularly her

1162
01:42:39,010 --> 01:42:43,870
Keep your touch light and playful. Let
your fingers dance over her and tease

1163
01:42:43,870 --> 01:42:44,870
her.

1164
01:42:46,800 --> 01:42:51,160
It can be easier for a woman to climax
through manual stimulation than

1165
01:42:51,160 --> 01:42:55,760
penetrative sex, as your fingers can be
far more precise than your penis,

1166
01:42:55,940 --> 01:43:02,240
hitting her most sensitive zones. You
can caress her clitoris, G -spots, A

1167
01:43:02,240 --> 01:43:03,520
and even cervix.

1168
01:43:04,640 --> 01:43:09,320
Some women feel self -conscious about
their genitals. They don't see them in

1169
01:43:09,320 --> 01:43:10,320
way their partner does.

1170
01:43:10,680 --> 01:43:14,780
Telling your partner that she's got
beautiful bits will help her relax and

1171
01:43:14,780 --> 01:43:18,020
up. It's a compliment that almost every
woman will appreciate.

1172
01:43:19,480 --> 01:43:23,720
The clitoris is a wonderful thing with
the sole function of giving a woman

1173
01:43:23,720 --> 01:43:27,320
sexual pleasure. And it's far bigger
than you might think.

1174
01:43:27,620 --> 01:43:31,400
It's wishbone shaped with three quarters
of it hidden from view.

1175
01:43:31,600 --> 01:43:33,440
So there's a lot to stimulate.

1176
01:43:36,300 --> 01:43:39,260
Try softly stroking your partner's
clitoris.

1177
01:43:39,560 --> 01:43:43,700
Focusing on the clitoral hood to start
with until she starts to get aroused.

1178
01:43:44,570 --> 01:43:48,810
Some women don't like direct clitoral
stimulation until just before they

1179
01:43:49,090 --> 01:43:53,670
and others don't like the tip being
touched at all, as it can be too

1180
01:43:55,290 --> 01:43:59,350
Work around the base of the clitoris,
and her inner lips if this is the case.

1181
01:43:59,730 --> 01:44:04,170
Even if she likes direct clitoral
stimulation, she'll appreciate you

1182
01:44:04,170 --> 01:44:05,830
gradual approach to reach it.

1183
01:44:07,270 --> 01:44:11,530
Loving the pearl is ideal once your
partner is getting really aroused.

1184
01:44:11,870 --> 01:44:16,350
Rest your thumb and index finger on
either side of her clitoris and rub it

1185
01:44:16,350 --> 01:44:17,249
and forth.

1186
01:44:17,250 --> 01:44:19,670
Follow her body movements to set the
pace.

1187
01:44:20,470 --> 01:44:23,930
Or try masturbating the clitoris as if
it was a miniature penis.

1188
01:44:24,570 --> 01:44:28,530
Not all women have a large enough
clitoris for this to be possible. If

1189
01:44:28,530 --> 01:44:32,590
partner is one of them, simply put your
fingers on either side of her clitoris

1190
01:44:32,590 --> 01:44:34,210
and rub or squeeze it.

1191
01:44:34,620 --> 01:44:36,580
or try rubbing the ridge above it.

1192
01:44:38,980 --> 01:44:43,140
Alternative techniques include drumming
your fingers against your partner's

1193
01:44:43,140 --> 01:44:48,660
pubic mound and clitoris, twirling her
labia between your fingers, as if you

1194
01:44:48,660 --> 01:44:52,940
were twirling a piece of string, or
simply rubbing your partner's clitoris.

1195
01:44:53,360 --> 01:44:57,960
While the clitoris is important, it's
not the be -all and end -all. The labia

1196
01:44:57,960 --> 01:45:02,120
and entire pubic area are very
responsive to touch and teething.

1197
01:45:02,860 --> 01:45:07,600
Spend time stroking your partner's pubic
mound, gently tugging at her pubic hair

1198
01:45:07,600 --> 01:45:10,220
or running your fingers over her labia.

1199
01:45:11,860 --> 01:45:16,720
And pressing one hand against a woman's
pubic bone with the heel of the hand

1200
01:45:16,720 --> 01:45:21,540
resting on top of her ovaries while you
stimulate her with your fingers can help

1201
01:45:21,540 --> 01:45:22,640
deepen orgasm.

1202
01:45:23,240 --> 01:45:28,440
Rocking your hand back and forwards as
you do so will help stretch her skin and

1203
01:45:28,440 --> 01:45:30,560
indirectly stimulate the clitoris.

1204
01:45:32,839 --> 01:45:36,760
Once your partner is aroused enough,
she'll probably let you know when she

1205
01:45:36,760 --> 01:45:38,500
you to penetrate her with your fingers.

1206
01:45:39,080 --> 01:45:44,760
Start slowly, with just one finger, a
joint at a time, and only adding more

1207
01:45:44,760 --> 01:45:47,540
it becomes easy and she's happy for you
to continue.

1208
01:45:49,200 --> 01:45:55,160
Women vary as to how many fingers they
like inside them. One good rule is three

1209
01:45:55,160 --> 01:45:59,600
on the outside and two on the inside,
but some women like even more.

1210
01:46:00,520 --> 01:46:04,900
Vary the speed and rhythm of your
fingers inside her and combine this with

1211
01:46:04,900 --> 01:46:08,780
movements over her clit and playing with
her nipples with your fingers or

1212
01:46:08,780 --> 01:46:13,460
tongue. And don't just thrust in and
out, experiment with different motions,

1213
01:46:13,720 --> 01:46:18,180
crossing and uncrossing two fingers
inside your partner or alternating them,

1214
01:46:18,260 --> 01:46:19,260
piston style.

1215
01:46:19,340 --> 01:46:22,740
A twist of the wrist can also add a
delicious thrill.

1216
01:46:24,520 --> 01:46:28,020
The stir is a sensual technique that
many women enjoy.

1217
01:46:28,280 --> 01:46:33,840
Using your index and middle fingers
together, insert them into her vagina,

1218
01:46:33,840 --> 01:46:36,780
stir them around to tease her vaginal
walls.

1219
01:46:38,580 --> 01:46:44,040
The G -spot is a spongy mass about a
third of the way inside a woman's vagina

1220
01:46:44,040 --> 01:46:45,040
the upper wall.

1221
01:46:46,940 --> 01:46:48,900
Stroke it with a come -here -the motion.

1222
01:46:49,660 --> 01:46:54,600
Bear in mind that not all women have a G
-spot, and some women just want to pee

1223
01:46:54,600 --> 01:46:55,860
when they're overstimulated.

1224
01:46:56,340 --> 01:47:01,860
However, other women can have incredibly
intense orgasms, so it's worth looking

1225
01:47:01,860 --> 01:47:02,860
for.

1226
01:47:03,500 --> 01:47:08,880
And it's not just the G -spot. Between a
woman's G -spot and her cervix, the

1227
01:47:08,880 --> 01:47:13,580
round bit at the back of the vagina, is
an area called the anterior fornic zone

1228
01:47:13,580 --> 01:47:15,100
or A -spot for short.

1229
01:47:15,460 --> 01:47:21,480
Found by scientists investigating
vaginal dryness in 1996, it can also

1230
01:47:21,480 --> 01:47:22,960
orgasms for some women.

1231
01:47:23,520 --> 01:47:26,740
Spend some time exploring to see if your
partner is one of them.

1232
01:47:31,790 --> 01:47:34,490
Some women enjoy anal stimulation too.

1233
01:47:34,910 --> 01:47:39,510
If your partner is one of them, try
sliding a finger around the rim or

1234
01:47:39,510 --> 01:47:42,170
a well -lubricated finger into her anus.

1235
01:47:43,370 --> 01:47:48,370
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not
create its own natural lubrication and

1236
01:47:48,370 --> 01:47:52,710
more susceptible to tears, so use plenty
of lubricants and make sure that you

1237
01:47:52,710 --> 01:47:56,310
wash any finger that's been in the anus
before touching the vagina with it,

1238
01:47:56,370 --> 01:47:58,390
otherwise it could lead to infection.

1239
01:48:00,670 --> 01:48:06,630
Relaxation is the key to anal play, and
if it hurts, don't do it. You either

1240
01:48:06,630 --> 01:48:10,070
aren't interested or aren't relaxed
enough for it to be enjoyable.

1241
01:48:13,390 --> 01:48:16,730
Enjoy exploring your partner's body and
take your time.

1242
01:48:17,070 --> 01:48:21,470
Sex isn't meant to be rushed. Just
remember, keep a steady rhythm as orgasm

1243
01:48:21,470 --> 01:48:27,190
approaches. Unlike men, women want a
constant pace rather than a faster pace

1244
01:48:27,190 --> 01:48:28,190
they near climax.

1245
01:48:30,280 --> 01:48:34,560
A few guidelines can improve manual sex
for both men and women.

1246
01:48:35,080 --> 01:48:38,020
Make sure that your nails are short and
hands are clean.

1247
01:48:38,420 --> 01:48:42,460
Using lube can improve the experience
for both of you, even if you get

1248
01:48:42,460 --> 01:48:44,300
relatively well lubricated naturally.

1249
01:48:44,640 --> 01:48:48,740
Of course, nature also provides saliva
as its own form of lubricant.

1250
01:48:49,390 --> 01:48:53,990
But it's also worth trying commercial
lubes. They come in different types, so

1251
01:48:53,990 --> 01:48:56,370
try a few to see which one you like
most.

1252
01:48:56,650 --> 01:49:01,090
Just remember never to use anything oil
-based if you're planning on having

1253
01:49:01,090 --> 01:49:03,790
penetrative sex, as it can rot condoms.

1254
01:49:04,470 --> 01:49:07,510
Most importantly, ask your partner what
they like.

1255
01:49:07,890 --> 01:49:10,190
Communication is essential for good sex.

1256
01:49:10,550 --> 01:49:13,850
Listen to their body as much, if not
more, than their voice.

1257
01:49:14,130 --> 01:49:17,690
Pay attention to every arch of the back,
every flutter of the eyelashes.

1258
01:49:18,510 --> 01:49:19,510
and every moan.

1259
01:49:19,730 --> 01:49:24,170
If you learn to read your partner's body
language, you'll become fluent in

1260
01:49:24,170 --> 01:49:25,170
giving them pleasure.

1261
01:49:44,060 --> 01:49:47,460
something that some people are squeamish
about, whether giving or receiving.

1262
01:49:47,820 --> 01:49:52,320
They worry that they might smell
unpleasant or they dislike the idea of

1263
01:49:52,320 --> 01:49:57,940
control. Women may not like the idea of
swallowing semen and men may worry that

1264
01:49:57,940 --> 01:49:59,080
they won't be able to breathe.

1265
01:49:59,340 --> 01:50:02,140
However, there's little need to worry
about these things.

1266
01:50:03,880 --> 01:50:08,380
If you're bothered, you could try a sexy
shower together first so you feel

1267
01:50:08,380 --> 01:50:11,600
relaxed enough about your body to enjoy
oral sex.

1268
01:50:12,400 --> 01:50:17,080
There should be something intensely sexy
about the aroma and taste of your

1269
01:50:17,080 --> 01:50:18,760
partner's most intimate juices.

1270
01:50:19,120 --> 01:50:23,420
If you feel uncomfortable at the idea of
your partner tasting you, remember,

1271
01:50:23,600 --> 01:50:28,620
this is one of nature's most powerful
tools for sexual arousal. Indeed, it's

1272
01:50:28,620 --> 01:50:32,600
important that some people say if you
don't like the way your partner smells

1273
01:50:32,600 --> 01:50:35,080
tastes, then perhaps you shouldn't be
together.

1274
01:50:35,860 --> 01:50:40,280
That said, it is possible to vary the
taste of semen and vaginal juices.

1275
01:50:41,130 --> 01:50:45,230
if you worry that you taste too bitter
cut down on alcohol and coffee while

1276
01:50:45,230 --> 01:50:49,670
eating more fresh fruit can sweeten the
taste but generally most people worry

1277
01:50:49,670 --> 01:50:54,210
far too much about the way they smell or
taste when in reality their partner is

1278
01:50:54,210 --> 01:50:55,210
more than happy

1279
01:50:58,220 --> 01:51:03,440
Do be wary about the risk of STD and STI
transmission with oral sex.

1280
01:51:03,680 --> 01:51:07,820
Unless you and your partner have been
practising safe sex for at least six

1281
01:51:07,820 --> 01:51:12,900
months and have full STI tests that have
come out clean, you're putting yourself

1282
01:51:12,900 --> 01:51:15,640
at risk if you have unprotected oral
sex.

1283
01:51:15,940 --> 01:51:20,260
Use dental dams or condoms to stay
healthy and safe.

1284
01:51:22,920 --> 01:51:26,900
Give oral sex because you enjoy it and
because your partner enjoys it.

1285
01:51:27,450 --> 01:51:30,230
It's not something that you should
begrudge doing, and certainly not

1286
01:51:30,230 --> 01:51:32,650
that you should do because you want to
get it in return.

1287
01:51:33,790 --> 01:51:37,970
After you've enjoyed orally pleasuring
your partner, remember to tell them if

1288
01:51:37,970 --> 01:51:39,610
you love the way they taste and smell.

1289
01:51:39,930 --> 01:51:41,410
They'll feel utterly desired.

1290
01:51:51,370 --> 01:51:55,390
Giving oral pleasure can be one of the
highlights of your sex life. The old

1291
01:51:55,390 --> 01:51:59,710
in which a man describes his worst ever
blowjob as fantastic rings true.

1292
01:52:01,130 --> 01:52:06,030
Most men will see a blowjob as a great
gift. But remember, the woman needs to

1293
01:52:06,030 --> 01:52:08,370
in control of the pace, rhythm and
depth.

1294
01:52:10,950 --> 01:52:15,750
Using your hands as well as your mouth
allows you to set the depth of

1295
01:52:15,750 --> 01:52:18,610
penetration and helps you control your
gagging reflex.

1296
01:52:19,630 --> 01:52:23,750
Put your hand around his shaft and your
lips around the head of his penis, then

1297
01:52:23,750 --> 01:52:28,550
move your hand and mouth up and down in
time with each other, licking and

1298
01:52:28,550 --> 01:52:29,550
sucking as you go.

1299
01:52:30,310 --> 01:52:33,970
Lots of men like their frenulum to be
teased or flicked with a tongue.

1300
01:52:34,850 --> 01:52:39,150
And men, don't put your hand on the back
of your partner's head when she's going

1301
01:52:39,150 --> 01:52:41,630
down on you, unless she asks you to.

1302
01:52:41,850 --> 01:52:47,070
The woman needs to set the pace in
fellatio. If you make her gag, she won't

1303
01:52:47,070 --> 01:52:48,330
inclined to do it again.

1304
01:52:49,040 --> 01:52:50,900
Just relax and enjoy.

1305
01:53:13,879 --> 01:53:18,000
Vary the position in which you perform
fellatio. Lots of men like the visual

1306
01:53:18,000 --> 01:53:21,740
element and the power kick that comes
from being fellated by a woman who's on

1307
01:53:21,740 --> 01:53:22,438
her knees.

1308
01:53:22,440 --> 01:53:26,900
It also gives easy access for the woman
to caress his buttocks and perineum.

1309
01:53:27,640 --> 01:53:32,220
However, if kneeling in front of your
partner sets your feminist hattles

1310
01:53:32,480 --> 01:53:36,100
get him to lie on his back and then
kneel in front of him.

1311
01:53:36,560 --> 01:53:40,960
Depending on the size and width of the
man's penis, approaching it from the

1312
01:53:40,960 --> 01:53:45,540
may be easier. In this position, you can
easily rub the head of his penis

1313
01:53:45,540 --> 01:53:48,740
against the inside of your cheek for
extra stimulation.

1314
01:53:49,200 --> 01:53:53,740
Or try facing his feet. This means that
you can get him far enough down your

1315
01:53:53,740 --> 01:53:55,020
throat for it to be enjoyable.

1316
01:53:55,440 --> 01:53:59,020
It gives him a great view, but also puts
you in control.

1317
01:54:02,030 --> 01:54:07,170
Alternatively, you can sit back while he
kneels over your chest. You can control

1318
01:54:07,170 --> 01:54:11,930
his thrust by gripping his buttocks and
have easy access to his testicles,

1319
01:54:12,010 --> 01:54:17,670
perineum and anus. You may even be able
to reach the prostate gland, the male G

1320
01:54:17,670 --> 01:54:21,770
-spot, located inside the anus, just in
front of the rectum.

1321
01:54:22,860 --> 01:54:27,220
Another position that allows lots of
scope for anal play is picking the

1322
01:54:27,360 --> 01:54:32,060
In this position, you can easily suck
and caress his testicles and perineum

1323
01:54:32,060 --> 01:54:33,480
while stroking his shaft.

1324
01:54:33,780 --> 01:54:38,460
Try writing a big capital W on his
scrotum with your tongue for extra

1325
01:54:38,840 --> 01:54:43,300
Some men like teabagging, where you take
one or both testicles in your mouth.

1326
01:54:47,280 --> 01:54:51,380
But it's not just positions. There are
numerous techniques to pleasure your

1327
01:54:51,380 --> 01:54:55,380
partner orally. Sucking can be tiring,
but if you alternate it with licking,

1328
01:54:55,380 --> 01:55:00,080
then you'll find it easier. Just don't
suck too hard. When you're licking his

1329
01:55:00,080 --> 01:55:04,280
penis, let lots of saliva dribble from
your mouth as a natural lubricant.

1330
01:55:04,800 --> 01:55:09,240
Try flicking your tongue lightly over
him, focusing on the frenulum and other

1331
01:55:09,240 --> 01:55:10,240
sensitive areas.

1332
01:55:10,800 --> 01:55:15,020
Alternating this with a firmer stroke
and suction motion will drive him wild.

1333
01:55:16,200 --> 01:55:20,940
Some men have a sensitive urethra and
like it when you poke your tongue in and

1334
01:55:20,940 --> 01:55:26,520
out of it. Others find that it hurts, so
check to see how he responds to feeling

1335
01:55:26,520 --> 01:55:28,140
your tongue in and around it.

1336
01:55:29,420 --> 01:55:32,920
Humming while you've got your partner's
penis in your mouth will send vibrations

1337
01:55:32,920 --> 01:55:34,780
through his most intimate areas.

1338
01:55:35,180 --> 01:55:38,820
Or use a vibrator on the cheek to do it
for you.

1339
01:55:41,320 --> 01:55:46,120
If you'd like to try deep -throating
your partner, learn how to control your

1340
01:55:46,120 --> 01:55:50,100
reflex. You can make things easier by
raising your soft palate.

1341
01:55:50,520 --> 01:55:55,060
Tense your mouth, flare your nostrils,
and you'll feel it rise. This gives more

1342
01:55:55,060 --> 01:55:57,180
space for his penis to slide down.

1343
01:55:57,640 --> 01:56:02,280
The more space your throat has got, the
better. So it's far easier to do with

1344
01:56:02,280 --> 01:56:06,320
your neck straight than bent, him
leaning over you while you pull him

1345
01:56:06,320 --> 01:56:08,500
your face, rather than vice versa.

1346
01:56:11,500 --> 01:56:16,740
A great trick if you find that oral sex
makes you gag, or if he's just too big,

1347
01:56:16,840 --> 01:56:18,060
is the cheek push.

1348
01:56:18,280 --> 01:56:22,780
With one hand on his shaft, position
your partner's penis so that it's aimed

1349
01:56:22,780 --> 01:56:25,380
into the side of your cheek while you
fillet him.

1350
01:56:25,900 --> 01:56:30,060
Let the head of his penis rub against
your inner cheek with every thrust.

1351
01:56:30,540 --> 01:56:33,580
Most men can't tell the difference in
the heat of the moment.

1352
01:56:33,860 --> 01:56:38,660
He'll feel like he's been deep -throated
and your gag reflex won't be set off.

1353
01:56:39,200 --> 01:56:44,020
Another way to add a tingle is to suck
on a strong mint or use mouthwash before

1354
01:56:44,020 --> 01:56:45,360
going down on him.

1355
01:56:45,840 --> 01:56:50,420
Looking for something a bit different?
Try changing the temperature of your

1356
01:56:50,420 --> 01:56:52,820
mouth for the ice and fire technique.

1357
01:56:53,380 --> 01:56:55,860
Chill your mouth by sucking on an ice
cube.

1358
01:56:56,100 --> 01:57:00,480
Just make sure you let it melt for a bit
first. You don't want to give him ice

1359
01:57:00,480 --> 01:57:01,480
burns.

1360
01:57:02,240 --> 01:57:05,980
Then heat it up with a mouthful of
coffee, but again...

1361
01:57:06,360 --> 01:57:08,780
Don't let boiling water anywhere near
tender skin.

1362
01:57:11,840 --> 01:57:14,220
And then on to the eternal question.

1363
01:57:14,520 --> 01:57:19,420
To swallow or not to swallow? Some women
hate the taste while others love it.

1364
01:57:19,720 --> 01:57:23,740
Safer sex assumed it's entirely up to
you which one you go for.

1365
01:57:24,540 --> 01:57:28,600
If you don't like the taste, taking the
man's penis in the back of your throat

1366
01:57:28,600 --> 01:57:34,280
can help matters as it means that the
semen mostly bypasses the taste buds and

1367
01:57:34,280 --> 01:57:36,020
is in your mouth for less time.

1368
01:57:36,780 --> 01:57:41,580
If you dislike the taste, keep a glass
of squash by the side of the bed. That

1369
01:57:41,580 --> 01:57:46,200
way you can wash the taste from your
mouth and still cuddle up to your

1370
01:57:46,840 --> 01:57:50,720
Leaping up to go and clean your teeth
can be a real intimacy killer.

1371
01:57:54,240 --> 01:57:58,940
Alternatively, many men find it
intensely sexy climaxing over a woman's

1372
01:57:59,140 --> 01:58:02,460
face or neck, otherwise known as a pearl
necklace.

1373
01:58:03,040 --> 01:58:07,260
It's a far sexier way to avoid
swallowing than simply spitting it out

1374
01:58:07,260 --> 01:58:08,260
tissue.

1375
01:58:08,440 --> 01:58:11,400
Your partner won't be remembering the
night you didn't swallow.

1376
01:58:11,940 --> 01:58:15,400
They'll recall in vivid detail the night
you let them come on you.

1377
01:58:16,080 --> 01:58:21,100
Don't let yourself feel pressurised into
swallowing. If you don't like it, don't

1378
01:58:21,100 --> 01:58:22,039
do it.

1379
01:58:22,040 --> 01:58:26,020
Asking him what he enjoys and then doing
it, assuming you like what he suggests,

1380
01:58:26,280 --> 01:58:28,880
is the best way of ensuring you both
have fun.

1381
01:58:29,860 --> 01:58:34,520
If you're really unsure of what to do,
try acting out a fantasy where you are a

1382
01:58:34,520 --> 01:58:39,340
sex novice and he has the job of
instructing you. It can be a sexy way of

1383
01:58:39,340 --> 01:58:40,400
improving your technique.

1384
01:58:56,460 --> 01:59:00,000
Oral sex is one of the easiest ways for
many women to climax.

1385
01:59:00,300 --> 01:59:04,200
If you develop your oral skills, your
partner is sure to be happy.

1386
01:59:04,520 --> 01:59:09,380
If she's shy, showing enthusiasm for
what you're doing will help her feel

1387
01:59:09,380 --> 01:59:14,560
about it. It should arouse you, and if
it does, let her know. She'll enjoy it

1388
01:59:14,560 --> 01:59:16,480
far more as she'll be more relaxed.

1389
01:59:17,100 --> 01:59:21,240
Unless she specifies otherwise, make
sure you're clean shaven when you go

1390
01:59:21,240 --> 01:59:21,779
on her.

1391
01:59:21,780 --> 01:59:25,300
Sandpaper sensation on the thighs or
genitals isn't a good thing.

1392
01:59:27,280 --> 01:59:31,780
Using the soft underside of your lips to
rub her clit gives a softer sensation.

1393
01:59:32,100 --> 01:59:37,520
Try gently sucking the clit between your
lips, French kissing her vagina, softly

1394
01:59:37,520 --> 01:59:42,780
blowing across her clitoris or softly
pulling her pubic hair to part her lips

1395
01:59:42,780 --> 01:59:46,320
and give a pain pleasure thrill if she's
into that kind of thing.

1396
01:59:46,700 --> 01:59:50,440
Try humming on her clitoris and becoming
a human vibrator.

1397
01:59:53,930 --> 01:59:58,430
Another popular way to keep going with
oral sex is writing the letters of the

1398
01:59:58,430 --> 02:00:00,670
alphabet on her clitoris with your
tongue.

1399
02:00:11,110 --> 02:00:14,430
Can you get the big O before she does?

1400
02:00:15,720 --> 02:00:20,280
As with manual sex, don't just focus on
the clitoris. There are other parts of

1401
02:00:20,280 --> 02:00:23,500
the vulva connected to the clitoris
which can also be stimulated.

1402
02:00:24,820 --> 02:00:27,760
The inner labia are rooted at the
clitoral hood.

1403
02:00:28,120 --> 02:00:33,240
Nibbling, licking or sucking the inner
labia indirectly stimulates the clitoris

1404
02:00:33,240 --> 02:00:35,340
and will help build her arousal.

1405
02:00:38,960 --> 02:00:43,880
Try massaging the outer labia with your
fingers at the same time to add extra

1406
02:00:43,880 --> 02:00:44,880
thrills.

1407
02:00:45,160 --> 02:00:49,160
Nudging back the clitoral hood with your
tongue with incredibly light pressure

1408
02:00:49,160 --> 02:00:53,800
is also easy in this position and will
have most women moaning with pleasure.

1409
02:00:55,460 --> 02:01:00,300
Penetrating your partner with your
tongue can be incredibly intense for

1410
02:01:00,300 --> 02:01:06,260
you. Flex and curl your tongue, then
insert it into her vaginal opening and

1411
02:01:06,260 --> 02:01:09,220
thrust at a rhythm that works for both
of you.

1412
02:01:09,839 --> 02:01:13,780
Alternate this with sucking her clit and
licking her labia to stop your tongue

1413
02:01:13,780 --> 02:01:14,780
getting too tired.

1414
02:01:15,940 --> 02:01:20,380
The sensations vary depending on the
angle at which you approach the clitoris

1415
02:01:20,380 --> 02:01:21,099
and vagina.

1416
02:01:21,100 --> 02:01:25,640
So don't just stick to the same
position. Going in from the side gives

1417
02:01:25,640 --> 02:01:29,900
scope to stimulate the whole of the
clitoris rather than focusing on the

1418
02:01:30,060 --> 02:01:31,780
which may be good if she's sensitive.

1419
02:01:32,380 --> 02:01:36,620
Your chin will also rub against her mons
in this position, which may add more

1420
02:01:36,620 --> 02:01:40,980
pleasure. This is particularly good if
the woman has a sensitive clitoris as

1421
02:01:40,980 --> 02:01:44,820
it's easier to avoid the tip and focus
on the hood and upper labia.

1422
02:01:48,800 --> 02:01:53,900
Alternatively, your partner may like
lying on her back while you lie between

1423
02:01:53,900 --> 02:01:57,060
legs as this gives easy access to the
clit and vagina.

1424
02:01:57,400 --> 02:02:03,020
She can then spread her legs wide or
place one or both on your shoulders to

1425
02:02:03,020 --> 02:02:04,800
you deeper access to her vagina.

1426
02:02:06,060 --> 02:02:10,580
If she sits on your face, you can get
your tongue deeper inside her, but don't

1427
02:02:10,580 --> 02:02:11,580
ignore that clit.

1428
02:02:12,600 --> 02:02:15,040
Or why not try approaching from above?

1429
02:02:15,320 --> 02:02:20,620
Kneel astride your partner as if in the
69 position, then lick and suck her

1430
02:02:20,620 --> 02:02:25,920
clitoris. Very soft and hard sucking,
and let the tip of the clitoris slide

1431
02:02:25,920 --> 02:02:30,120
underneath the clitoral hood, maybe
teasing it with the underside of your

1432
02:02:30,120 --> 02:02:31,120
tongue.

1433
02:02:31,370 --> 02:02:35,050
Of course, in this position, you could
always end up orally stimulating each

1434
02:02:35,050 --> 02:02:39,710
other at the same time. You may find it
easier moving into the classic 69

1435
02:02:39,710 --> 02:02:44,830
position in which both lie on your
sides, using your fingers as well as

1436
02:02:44,830 --> 02:02:48,490
tongue. And don't be afraid to take
breaks if you find yourself getting too

1437
02:02:48,490 --> 02:02:50,670
distracted by your partner's attentions.

1438
02:02:51,290 --> 02:02:55,010
Let them know if you want to focus
entirely on them too.

1439
02:02:57,930 --> 02:03:02,990
To make oral sex easy for a man, the
woman can try lying on her back on a

1440
02:03:02,990 --> 02:03:07,590
or bed with her legs over the edge. This
position means that she can wrap her

1441
02:03:07,590 --> 02:03:11,670
thighs around the man's head while still
having the freedom to writhe.

1442
02:03:12,210 --> 02:03:16,450
You can even approach from behind,
reaching her vagina from an entirely

1443
02:03:16,450 --> 02:03:19,330
different angle while your fingers work
their magic.

1444
02:03:19,590 --> 02:03:24,250
This position is ideal if your partner
has a particularly sensitive clitoris

1445
02:03:24,250 --> 02:03:26,410
that can't cope with direct stimulation.

1446
02:03:28,099 --> 02:03:33,500
Ask your partner what she likes and
listen to her moans. Before too long,

1447
02:03:33,500 --> 02:03:35,080
be a cunnilingus king.

1448
02:03:45,550 --> 02:03:50,370
Sex toys are a great way to add a real
buzz to your love life. We've come a

1449
02:03:50,370 --> 02:03:53,510
way since the days of a hard dildo being
the only option.

1450
02:03:53,890 --> 02:03:56,870
Now you can get toys in all shapes and
sizes.

1451
02:03:57,550 --> 02:04:00,490
Vibrators, love eggs and even remote
controlled toys.

1452
02:04:00,750 --> 02:04:05,610
They can stimulate your vagina, anus,
clitoris, prostate or G -spot.

1453
02:04:05,870 --> 02:04:07,750
Whatever you want will be out there.

1454
02:04:08,170 --> 02:04:12,310
And don't just think of them as a female
thing. There are plenty of toys for men

1455
02:04:12,310 --> 02:04:17,100
too. and an erotic afternoon with your
partner in a sex shop, there are lots of

1456
02:04:17,100 --> 02:04:21,100
couple -friendly stores springing up. If
that makes you nervous, you can visit

1457
02:04:21,100 --> 02:04:25,360
any number of discreet sites on the
Internet, including the Lover's Guide's

1458
02:04:25,360 --> 02:04:29,400
website at www .loversguide .com.

1459
02:04:31,600 --> 02:04:37,280
It can take time for a woman to get used
to the idea or the sensations of a sex

1460
02:04:37,280 --> 02:04:38,280
toy too.

1461
02:04:38,400 --> 02:04:43,320
Don't see them as a solitary pleasure
but allow time for her to explore a toy

1462
02:04:43,320 --> 02:04:45,080
her own before you use it together.

1463
02:04:45,360 --> 02:04:49,320
Once she's comfortable with it, you'll
both be able to relax and enjoy things

1464
02:04:49,320 --> 02:04:50,320
much more.

1465
02:04:50,340 --> 02:04:54,760
Sharing your toys safely with your
partner can help build intimacy between

1466
02:04:58,320 --> 02:05:01,160
Some men feel intimidated by sex toys.

1467
02:05:01,550 --> 02:05:05,030
So reassure your partner that the toy
isn't a replacement for him.

1468
02:05:06,190 --> 02:05:08,770
Ask if he'd like to see you using a toy
on yourself.

1469
02:05:09,230 --> 02:05:11,830
Most men find the idea incredibly
stimulating.

1470
02:05:12,450 --> 02:05:17,810
Toys can increase the amount and
intensity of your orgasms, add variety

1471
02:05:17,810 --> 02:05:21,870
lovemaking, and give him a chance to get
a rest if he gets tired.

1472
02:05:22,090 --> 02:05:25,890
After all, what man can go at 500 revs
per minute?

1473
02:05:26,960 --> 02:05:29,160
Remember, sex toys are entirely normal.

1474
02:05:29,400 --> 02:05:33,960
Picking out a toy or toys is a great way
to introduce a conversation about sex

1475
02:05:33,960 --> 02:05:38,480
in general. Even better, the
anticipation should get you both fired

1476
02:05:49,420 --> 02:05:53,300
Many men enjoy it if you run a vibrator
over their testicles.

1477
02:05:53,960 --> 02:05:56,280
though some find it tickles, so check
first.

1478
02:05:56,600 --> 02:06:01,180
A good way to reduce the intensity of
the vibrations is to cushion the toy

1479
02:06:01,180 --> 02:06:05,320
your hand. Put the vibrator on the back
of your hand rather than applying it

1480
02:06:05,320 --> 02:06:11,480
directly. You can also use any sex toys
during fellatio, butt plugs for anal

1481
02:06:11,480 --> 02:06:16,180
stimulation and vibrators to use on the
shaft while you lick and suck elsewhere.

1482
02:06:16,860 --> 02:06:20,000
There's even a toy designed specifically
for oral sex.

1483
02:06:20,640 --> 02:06:25,360
The tongue joy fits on the tongue with
an elastic band and vibrates while you

1484
02:06:25,360 --> 02:06:26,360
perform oral sex.

1485
02:06:26,640 --> 02:06:29,220
It can be used on men to tease the
frenulum.

1486
02:06:29,880 --> 02:06:34,200
And then there's the biggie, the
prostate gland, sometimes referred to as

1487
02:06:34,200 --> 02:06:35,240
male G -spot.

1488
02:06:35,940 --> 02:06:40,680
Many men like the idea of being anally
penetrated, but are scared to admit it

1489
02:06:40,680 --> 02:06:42,520
for fear that they'll be considered gay.

1490
02:06:43,050 --> 02:06:47,730
It's nothing to be ashamed of. Wanting
to feel the prostate gland stimulated is

1491
02:06:47,730 --> 02:06:50,070
as normal as a woman wanting G -spot
stimulation.

1492
02:06:50,730 --> 02:06:55,690
With all anal play, start slowly, maybe
with a small, well -lubed toy.

1493
02:06:56,110 --> 02:06:59,190
Only use toys anally that are designed
for the purpose.

1494
02:06:59,490 --> 02:07:03,490
Butt plugs need flared bases. You don't
want anything getting stuck.

1495
02:07:03,970 --> 02:07:09,430
If you're using anal beads, the trick is
to pull them out of your partner as he

1496
02:07:09,430 --> 02:07:10,550
reaches orgasm.

1497
02:07:11,150 --> 02:07:16,770
It requires nifty timing, but many men
say it adds an incredible intensity to

1498
02:07:16,770 --> 02:07:17,770
their orgasms.

1499
02:07:19,110 --> 02:07:23,330
If you and your partner want to
experiment further with anal play, you

1500
02:07:23,330 --> 02:07:24,950
to consider getting a strap -on.

1501
02:07:25,250 --> 02:07:29,390
It's advisable to go to a specialist
shop and get a harness fitted

1502
02:07:29,390 --> 02:07:31,410
for the person who will be wearing it.

1503
02:07:31,730 --> 02:07:36,330
If a woman is taking a man with a strap
-on, only do it with full concern.